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Limiting - the borderline podcast
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Controversial issues - hotly debated
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and nicely packed
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with my guests - heatedly discussed
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In an exciting format.
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Limit value.
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The podcast.
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Yes, hello and welcome to
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Threshold podcast.
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Hi there, MTC.
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Yes, moin, ladies and gentlemen,
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The listeners of it.
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Dear Sascha and also my listeners from YouTube,
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Spotify and Co.
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Moin!
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We have decided, as always, once again, after a long writing and after
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Long planning, yes, determined that we will take on a little something again.
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A topic that we had discussed a few weeks ago, well, privately.
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It's going to be a little bit today, we don't have a title yet, that's for sure
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Developing in the course of the podcast, it's a bit about communication, about the young
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or younger generation, that she is lazy in communication, to put it nicely, and that people
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a little lack of competence for real conversations, for asking and saying thank you,
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Look in the eye and so on and so forth. This whole generation of mobile phones and that we
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blaspheme a little bit about it or talk about it and also bring your own experiences with it. So,
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So much for the intro. Moin Sascha, how are you? Moin, I'm fine. I am looking forward to
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To really fit Gen Z, to push down and to dig up the dirt.
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Of course, in a nice way. I know this whole thing, what do you call it,
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You know, these whole generations don't look like that. You said in private earlier,
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I'm still with my nearly 31. So I only know this term millennium or
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something or as it is called. I don't know what English is like.
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Or just stop it. I don't know. So it can be good. I think I have
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I recently watched a video on TikTok. People like me, they've grown up with the internet
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People younger than me have grown up on the Internet. You know, all these people,
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Stop it, huh? So watch out, I'm Generation Z, Generation X. So pretty much at the end of it. And I
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I still have an analog childhood, but a digital youth. So the internet came up,
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so this, that came so a bit later, was so just so, e-mail boxes log in and
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Remote data transmission. It was the first home computer in my childhood. And that's why there
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there is such an intermediate generation, that is so five, six years between X and Z and they are
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Then the Zenyals. I've done my own podcast and thought about it.
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shared and also my experience with my first home computer and PC and how it was.
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Yes, in any case, one always writes so every 15 to 20 years to the young people
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It has certain characteristics, and that's what this generation is supposed to represent.
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Exactly, how do we get to the subject? It was nice of you to explain it that way. So
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Personally, I'm also a little bit
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Growing up as a child,
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I went out with my friends.
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I had Yu-Gi-Oh cards back then, I was familiar with Pokémon,
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Beyblade and I don't know, there were so many things.
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Sure, you bought the whole thing or Panini stickers and so on.
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They bought a city scooter like that.
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He rode his bike around.
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If you wanted to meet people, you went there,
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You've seen if they're at home or if they're chilling out somewhere else.
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So, I don't know, with other people.
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And I had later, I don't know, my first cell phone, I think at 12, 13, that was such a Walkman cell phone.
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I was just super unseen, but I think I should have been 12.
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I mostly listened to music.
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That was the time when you accidentally hit the internet button and then you kind of cracked your pants here.
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So...
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Yes, the infamous WAP button, W-A-P.
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Oh, that was so expensive.
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That was real, so that, um...
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That was really bad, I'll tell you how it is.
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Um...
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Yeah, that kind of generation, I'd say.
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And the people of today, to say it badly,
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They almost grew up on the internet.
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This is the Alpha generation, isn't it?
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What do you call them? Okay.
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So, after XYZ...
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Let's go alpha.
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Yeah, well, that can be good. So I'm not even in there.
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I just know that the older ones said that to you and then about me and so on and so forth,
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So, no, this is actually standard with us in the people, that we keep younger always a bit as
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Call them lost, you know what I mean? So, yes, the youth of today is so and so.
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We didn't have that. That's what we had when we were young, what we didn't have before, and so on.
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I think in every generation this is the case.
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Uh, yeah, how do we get to the subject?
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Personally, I noticed that, uh,
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By TikTok, I don't know.
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various phases of getting to know each other that I had,
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through the whole internet,
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It's all about WhatsApp groups.
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via YouTube, via TikTok.
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Even in real life, you get such a thing extremely often.
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People are barely able to think.
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They ghost you extremely fast,
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Just block yourself without doing anything,
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because they are no longer able to communicate,
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Which was actually the problem of them.
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And on the other hand, and that's even worse,
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Especially because it happens in real life.
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It is very clearly reflected,
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The People Who Watch
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No more talking in the eyes,
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They no longer say please or thank you.
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or are empathic, ask yourself how you are doing,
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It gets worse and worse on the bus.
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for example, that they stand up for an older lady or
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for a pregnant woman.
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So many things I've noticed over the years,
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Where education fails in part, in my opinion.
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And the people who consume their social media,
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Make some kind of content, that's okay, everybody likes it.
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And this, how do you always call this so beautiful, etiquette,
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this extremely good behavior, to have enjoyed a good upbringing,
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In my opinion, this is becoming less, less and less.
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And people always become disrespectful to older people.
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Yes, that is the starting point.
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I can tell you why.
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There are already studies and they say that Corona has contributed a lot to this. So the
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young people, just as 14, 15, 16 rum, who were in the corona era and were isolated and at home
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And they didn't learn that, that small talk you make when you go shopping,
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You say a few nice words at the checkout, don't flirt a bit on the phone, but just be nice.
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They didn't have it all during this time, but mostly wrote it.
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They communicate with each other and they just haven't learned these skills.
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Everyday life, this communication. And there I had you, as we had at the time, so on topics
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I had thought, I also had a newspaper report with the papers to the
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scientific studies. And there it is, and there are the conjectures
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In fact, it's the coronavirus era. I think the title of the article was,
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Why is a Generation Z staring at you? And just as I've listened to you, I've noticed,
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You're Generation Y. That's the mistake. So what I can say about this coronavirus period,
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If people think so, what do they mean now? What I can say about this,
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People were forced, so to speak, to roam around at home,
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To spend your time at home.
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The whole social media thing.
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There were a lot of new streamers at once on Twitch, for example.
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Because everyone was bored, people.
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Boredom, they turned thumbs, they wanted to do something.
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And then came a lot of TikTok videos and Instagram.
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And people have almost felt ready to make content there.
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And so this real talk with each other became less and less.
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Yes, you also have to imagine, so in the gastronomy, if the gastronomy was open, then it was on a budget, because you had to reserve tables and there had to be so and so much distance, it was only allowed to be so and so many people in a room and there was not so much needed and that's why such things as "My Dirty Little Hobby" and "All in Defense" and so, these things have all exploded, because the people had to earn money somewhere.
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Yes, that's where all life has played out on the internet.
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You also have to imagine that streaming services like Netflix have lowered the bitrate,
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They have compressed the films more so that the infrastructure does not collapse.
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'Cause they thought, if they're all sitting at home now, and they're all streaming,
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who knows if the servers can withstand that, if the line can withstand that.
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And some people had actually thought about it,
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whether the Internet could collapse worldwide,
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When people are watching all their streams.
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That's right, that's right.
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So, what you say, I can absolutely sign.
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Especially, as I said, on Twitch you noticed that, on Netflix as well.
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That wasn't the time Netflix said it was.
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that they now have this budgetary limit,
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device limitation that they insert that,
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You need to have your own account per household.
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Or was it a little later? I don't even know.
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No, so the first rumors came up at the time.
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Because people have shared accounts like anything else.
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Before that, it was an argument.
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So share your password and your friends will be able to watch.
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Yeah, that's it.
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So I think Corona was sometimes to blame.
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Of course, not predominantly. I also think it has something to do with education.
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I hardly see any parents. Sure, of course, you still see these parents, logically.
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But you know, for example, before, I don't know what it's like today,
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I used to shop a lot with my mother when I was a small child.
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And at the butcher's, you got a slice of sausage.
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And when you've been so reluctant,
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or a little shy, did you look a little so sad,
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A bit too high, which for me was a sausage and the mother then usually, or the grandmother or something,
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She usually said loudly, say thank you to the woman, she gave you something
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Just, that wasn't at all, that was in vain, you have to say thank you, you just said,
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Thank you so much dear woman or something. Thanks aunt. Yeah, that's right, that's what it used to be
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Just keep it normal, you know, and then you learned, and nothing was said.
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Apart from that, the education was in my opinion at that time anyway a bit stricter and also
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a bit more effective than today's, because today, as I said, parents
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say you got a phone and let's go and yeah do what you want, all right, main thing I
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I don't have any trouble with that now. This is another topic for maybe another one.
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Or for a podcast, but I don't know. For one thing, as I said, people
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They are becoming more and more disrespectful and always a little bit, as I said, the blocks are one that ghosts.
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one. Proper communication is becoming increasingly difficult. I mean now without getting in person
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As a small example. In the last podcast of ours we have a little bit about the topic Vermeider
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I was talking about my ex-girlfriend and I realized that. So she was also
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a person who has withdrawn very often and very strongly and I always get that
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Again with some friendships. The people who have swept so sharply in themselves, that's not
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But they have turned so sharply into themselves that they,
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If there are problems that can be solved with communication,
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Because they are not problems,
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instead of talking because they may never have learned this,
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Get out of this... um...
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How am I supposed to say that?
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They evade a bit of this responsibility and say,
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You know what, come on, I'm archiving the chat,
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I block the person and so on, all is well.
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Without saying anything.
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And yes, the Great Awakening is coming,
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For example, when you go to the supermarket
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meet the person and then, you don't have me there,
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You blocked me or something, you didn't write to me anymore.
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Then usually something like, I have a new number,
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Next time I'll give it to you,
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But I urgently need to go now.
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Then you think it was super unpleasant.
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Sure, if you're further away now, over a few hundred kilometers,
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Of course, then you can do something like that, wegghost people, block them away, good.
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You can't expect or fear anything, of course.
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But what I want to say before people stop talking to each other and really communicate what their problem is in relationships, friendships,
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It simply avoids the conflict.
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You're getting older, you're getting less and less into conflicts, but the young generation, as I've noticed, doesn't avoid it.
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Because they think, oh come on, I need my energy for me, but because in my opinion they no longer know what it is like to communicate.
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Communication is sometimes the most important thing in a relationship, besides loyalty in my opinion.
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Of course.
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You need to know what's going on.
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But if you haven't learned to talk about facts, just keep this small talk,
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So to have a conversation without really important content, then you can't use it.
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when and in normal everyday communication with other people, this starts with driving the bus,
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Taxi, at the ticket office, in the cinema, in the queue or something that you can just say a few nice words
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exchanges without really relevant content, then you can not. This is also
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Things that need to be practiced. What Is Appropriate, What Is Not Appropriate, How Do I Go To Others?
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People to? But if I stop at this crucial phase of my life, where do I stop?
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These skills are developed in the youth, where you just hang out, begins
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Going out, so not going outside, but partying, then it can't. And
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You have to imagine, the consequence of this is, the whole clubs have thought yes
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If Corona is over, the store will run again.
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Yes Pustekuchen, Corona is over and people are still not going to the clubs.
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So a part of it.
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It has become less, I feel.
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Yes, it's much less, that's why a lot of clubs are closing in.
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Because rents are rising, but people aren't coming.
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And I see it that way, you come to the doctor and then you have one, how old is it? 20, 22 or something? She can't look you in the eye.
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Or even those nice words you say, can I help you? Do you need anything or something? There's nothing coming, but you're going there, yes, I need this and that and that.
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Then you say, okay, I'll finish it.
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And then tacitly. Nothing.
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Nothing?
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Yeah, you just hear that white noise.
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Nothing at all. Nothing at all.
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And then, yes, I wish you a nice day.
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And then done. That was it.
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Where's the conversation? Where are you, yeah, how are you?
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Are you satisfied?
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Well, of course, of course.
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You know, I'm basically,
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I am not a big fan of small talk.
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from small talk, simply because often these conversations lead to nothing,
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Especially in friendships.
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But with foreign people, there is something really common,
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Or at least open your mouth a little.
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So, I have to imagine this,
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There are probably a lot of points,
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which my mother criticizes me,
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Possibly harmless points, too.
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But what she has never criticized is the way
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How I'm on it.
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I was last, I was in some supermarket,
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I've been there most of the time, strangely enough.
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And there was an older lady, I don't know, let her be 70, 80 or something,
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And she was a little bit smaller like that, at 1.50 or something, and she asked me,
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I wonder if I can reach her from the shelf to the top. And I don't have anything like that
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I mean, yes, I can make, but of course young lady, of course, of course, I can give you very
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I like to get off the shelf. And then I stopped, I don't know what it was, any
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Vegetables or something in the jar or a can and I meant yes I
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I've heard that tastes super delicious in combination with this and that. Oh yes my
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she? I've tried it somewhere but so
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I'm sure there are enough recipes. So you can have a look. Oh that sounds
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interesting. I wanted to buy one and that's for sure. Then I wish for
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Anyway, have a nice day or something. And yes, they take care of themselves. And good is
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Then the woman smiles. You did your thing, so to speak.
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Karma points collected. So to speak. The woman goes out of the shopping can
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Maybe then remember a little bit, is a little more satisfied, I
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I'm also happier because I've been nice to people.
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This will cost you a maximum of 30 seconds. So and you go out with dopamine, such a
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A little bit more positive and everything is great. Why do you always have to keep your
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Put your mood on others, so your lousy mood stops?
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I was in the hospital yesterday, I had an appointment, such an examination,
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and then I'm there in the registration and the doctor's assistant, not even a nurse,
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Doctor helper, is there any leaves that other people from the waiting room so filled out
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Into the computer. And there comes no look to me that makes me understand,
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Yes, I've registered them, I'll take care of them when they're done, there's no word coming.
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She's doing her job and I'm standing there.
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Now you have to imagine, I'm not free, I have a rollator.
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So standing there for a long time is not like that. It's not my thing.
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So I sat down sometime and can just look over the counters.
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And it works on and on and on.
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At some point I try to draw attention to myself.
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Such a roller coaster. Yeah, yeah. Those little things you do like that. And then someday find
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Then you have to look where the roller coaster comes from and keep working. And I
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Just think, okay, this is new. Yes, then one day she had time,
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to take care of my concerns and how I was then finished with the appointments,
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I'm there again, the same game again, and I'm like, I wanted to ask,
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Could you call me a taxi? There they look at me and so from about taxi, call,
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Talking on the phone. You really had seen how the points went through and then came
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The question marks on my face.
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So easily panic.
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Yeah, I'll call a cab, you can wait there.
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Then she called a taxi, of course had to deal with the taxi center,
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Then he said the address of the hospital, and there you have to say, this is a super small hospital there in Bochum.
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At some point she arrived, yes, I called a taxi, that's coming soon.
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But you just realized on the whole, talking on the phone isn't her thing, small talk isn't her thing.
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She was just totally overwhelmed.
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I'm sure this woman could take it, pack it in the office,
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Put it in, put a bunch of paper down and say "do it" and then she'll work it out.
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But you can't put a customer in the aisle.
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No, it's definitely not. I'm just wondering if there was anything there about me.
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So what I also noticed, as a negative example, as I said, people are watching
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They don't look at you anymore and don't think it's that interesting anymore.
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to deal with you a little. I mean, the only thing you get to hear is,
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"Yes, there is a lot going on right now, I have to finish the things first." And then I arrive
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"Yes, all right, I have time, that's why I came here." That's the only one. But so
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real conversations, as it used to be or very many years ago, somehow
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It had become nothing less. I noticed that because you said that earlier,
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Because of the clubs and so on.
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10, 15 years ago
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The city was very busy with me.
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And the people met,
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They went out for a drink together,
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They went for a walk together,
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They played bowling, played billiards.
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That's a pretty personal point now,
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Which I noticed.
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I talked about it on TikTok.
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Nowadays, you want to meet a woman,
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You can't go to the women anymore.
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and can say, ey, you noticed me, don't know,
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you look nice, don't you know, do you have a goat,
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playing billiards together, as an example,
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Or I'll give you some cash.
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Nix, there comes, especially if you're unlucky,
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I want you to catch a lady who's in her early twenties or something.
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Because they all look like, don't know, almost 30 these days
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with her ten tons of make-up.
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Apart from, I mean, everyone as he likes, all good,
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I don't want to blaspheme women who are made-up now.
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That's hardly how old they are.
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If you find a person who fits into this scheme,
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As this podcast is about,
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Then you have a person who looks at you funny, if at all.
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Where you feel like she doesn't understand your language,
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Even though it is exactly like that.
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Yes, and if you're unlucky,
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Then, an hour later, they sit in front of TikTok or Instagram.
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Reels makes a video, a disgusting guy approached me.
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I could introduce you to that.
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He wanted to play billiards with me.
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So what's that? And then you have these people in the comments that write, oh yeah, that's full, so I'm trying to say, oh, that's literally cringe.
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How can this guy, oh man, men are all the same, that's real, you know what I mean, that's how you come up with her German, you know, so with her German-English and that's totally stupid.
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And boah, how can you just...
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And then you feel like an old sack,
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Just keep it that way, you know, which is basically
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I don't know anything about people anymore.
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How is it possible these days,
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To meet another person?
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You'll be blocked on social media somehow.
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or ignored and hosted,
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Because people yes
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You want to get her interested, you know.
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I'm sure you've already noticed this typical topic.
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The longer you ignore a person,
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The more interesting you are.
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There are mechanisms, yes.
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Yes, but you can't exaggerate that. I'm in my 20s with these.
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Playing things around and making them rare can make you more interesting, but you can't
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This is because it could be interpreted as disinterest. But they are only
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Hold on to certain guys who stand on it. Yeah, so you just have to know what you're doing.
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And this flirting thing, I mean, I've been out of the game a little bit longer.
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Yes, the last women I met all wrote to me.
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Yeah, well, I'm someone who hasn't actually met a partner in real life,
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Somehow they all wrote to me.
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And yes, it was relatively easy because I noticed them and then they did their best.
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That used to be nice.
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Interesting enough to be. So I don't know that you have to go and then make yourself interesting as a man.
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And after getting out of my first relationship, where I started going out again,
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I actually had no interest in it, because I was still working on the relationship.
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And there I was dressed completely black, there was just in this village disco,
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Yes, no village disco, city disco, but yes, you can call it village disco anyway,
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I stood there and talked to people.
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and in between a girl arrived who tried to make contact,
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But I've always left them cold,
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Because I just had no interest in it.
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And those who only wanted to dust off a drink,
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I left them anyway.
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I don't know, I can talk well,
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Even though I did a podcast about it,
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I don't like to talk on the phone, especially when I'm called. So if,
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Then I decide to call, not the other way around. I always take something important
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When I want to be disturbed and when I want to be disturbed. Yes, and these problems, I don't know them.
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Now I'm not a beautiful, super beautiful man. More like 08/15. Maybe it was that, too,
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I don't know, but these problems, which are always described in this way,
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I don't know a woman anymore, I don't know now, because I've been
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I had a three-and-a-half-year relationship, but I was single.
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Several loose things wanted on both sides. So not that I then put those on me all
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I kept it warm, but that was what both sides wanted it to be.
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It's loose. Yes, and then something solid happened again, there I was
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Nearly 10 years with one. Yeah, then things broke up.
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That was also after I had the stroke and so still zippy
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I got sick, then the social decline, not going to work anymore
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can. And I also have a longer time
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needed to be open again, because just a lot of other problems in the foreground
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stood. Yes, and then my current partner writes to me on Facebook. We have
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For weeks just written and phoned, also with videocalls, and at some point you came into the
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Point, yes, something is developing. And then came the point where they said, you know what,
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We should see each other in real life. We saw each other in real life and a few weeks later
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We were sure it was worth a partnership. So that it is now
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It was a partnership and then we were officially together. As I said,
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I've never had to do anything, because of course there was a co-worker or
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I was studying with a fellow student who I liked. But I never tried.
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I don't know, I don't know. But these skills, this communication and yourself
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To make it interesting in real life, besides texting, I have the feeling that
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that the younger people, especially those around the age of 20,
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The real ones have big problems. They have extreme problems. I notice that yes
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Especially when it comes to relationships, it's such a big deal for me personally. The people
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no longer talk about any problems that are no longer trying to solve these problems,
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They just have in their minds, "Oh you know what, why should I somehow waste my life with it,
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a person somehow, something to clarify with a person, I can just leave.
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People fall in love with this feeling of being in love, this hormonal and everything else.
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After that comes. Yes, but that only lasts a certain amount of time. Just, usually only three, four months on average and everything that comes after, what the people of former times had, this to be loyal,
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You know, you're there for each other, even as a team. There are these phases of infatuation, you get to know each other, then you fall in love, then you swim.
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Brain to dopamine and oxytocin. Yeah, that's right. Yes, and that's just this infatuation. Then there comes a point where you can't just
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Idealized, but where you can see mistakes. And when this phase is skipped,
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If it has survived, not been skipped, then it can become a
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Develop an intense, long-lasting relationship. But I see it in my
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circle of acquaintances. People go there, enjoy being in love and then when they see the mistakes,
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Because the pink-red glasses are slowly getting back to normal color.
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Yes, that's critical, that's critical, that's critical.
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No, I can't.
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And then they finish this thing and then turn to the next thing.
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They almost don't give this relationship a chance.
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develop because they have gone before,
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Okay, so I'll look for the next one.
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You know, this thing is, I've noticed this a lot over the last few weeks.
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I had, so I can also address it, so no problem at all,
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I had been with my current ex-partner, with whom it has been over for almost four months now,
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I have afterwards, because I have always made clear in the relationship, pay attention when with us,
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When it's over and none of us are strangers, I'm ready.
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To be there for you afterwards. I don't know if there are financial problems.
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Emotionally, if you want to vomit, I don't know. And of course, I was still the
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first weeks very much in love with her, missed her and so on and so on,
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That's why the contact was a bit difficult at the beginning, that's all normal.
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Yeah, that's what you say. And I've seen it through all the long texts,
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Which we exchanged.
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That's right, that's right. Everything is okay and everything is normal. Nevertheless, I was always there for her
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He always had an open ear for her. Or, for example, you watch,
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I have a problem, I don't know, something harmless now.
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My monitor isn't working anymore.
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What could be the problem? Something like that, huh?
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And I would have always been willing to exchange,
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Because I'm basic, uh,
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I have no direct hatred for them.
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So, of course, there's an antipathy,
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She also did shit in retrospect.
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Um, but if all this had gone normally,
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From their side, too,
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I wouldn't have had a problem being cool with her.
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And, uh, little example on the sidelines,
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That you understand it a little better.
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I've been back for some time
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I had great contact with my ex-partner before.
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And I got them back then, so greetings go out to dear Kari,
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I don't know if you listen to podcasts like this.
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It was also on Twitch and YouTube.
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That's why it's okay to say the name.
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I'm with her then, don't know, five, six,
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They met six years ago. Yeah, that's how it goes, yeah.
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I met her through Facebook,
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through a Facebook group, through such netsplays and so on.
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That's why it was always cool,
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That's why I usually prefer gamers and people,
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I love YouTube because it's my hobbies.
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It can be a good fit,
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If you have the same hobbies or something like that.
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Then we met, were friends for many months,
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Then we realized, oh, there's a little more.
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Then she was there for me, I was there for her.
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Then you let it end in a relationship.
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Then it went well for a while.
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And then, the relationship was not toxic at all,
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It wasn't anti-communication at all, nothing.
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It was relatively open and mature.
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Just because the emotional state just has a dash
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made by the account.
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And, uh, anyway, even though we both need a little time,
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To get along a little bit, to change the feelings...
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You have to end the relationship.
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You have to do the same grief work as when someone dies.
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That's because, theoretically, a person dies at that moment.
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The person you loved will never be the same again.
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Exactly.
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As a rule.
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And at some point we wrote a little bit again.
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And we never held on to anything or anything or anything.
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Well, I did two songs to process the whole thing a bit.
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Let's laugh a little bit about it today.
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It's still online.
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They weren't negative in that sense, but just like that.
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Depression that we will leave and separations and so on.
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And we can be normal if we,
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Sure, because she lives forever far away.
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Can we still talk about videocall,
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Looking into the eyes of disco, we can laugh together,
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We can also cry together.
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There's no love there or anything.
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She has had her partner for several years.
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But there's still, you know, if I said, 'Ey, you,
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I'm just close to Kassel, can you lend me something?
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Ah, jo, sure. Or if I were to say, you,
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I've just, I don't know, if I had a pet now,
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A dog or something like that, because she knows animals.
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Of course, ask me.
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They are there for each other, or if they ask me something.
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It's great.
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That's what I'd like to see happen in every relationship.
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If you weren't toxic.
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If domestic violence was present or too alienated and so on,
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and that they have broken down,
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It's rather unrealistic that something like that happens.
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But I just noticed by my current ex-girlfriend,
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that she was not only avoidant in the relationship,
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But also afterwards.
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There's no such thing as "Ey, watch out for this and that."
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No, the people of today, they distance themselves completely.
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They don't want to talk about anything, they distance themselves completely.
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Not to be able to better conclude with the person,
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Simply put, I don't want to take responsibility.
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I don't want to say anything about it, I don't want to.
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You know, these are people too, sorry for the little rant at this point,
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for the little mockery, these are also mostly people,
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Not all of them, but from the example now,
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These are also people who, you know, are mostly on the Internet, for example
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Track this shallow content.
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They don't want to deal with critical issues.
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You know?
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Oh, let's briesen with them.
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Yes, hihi, haha.
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Anything that could be serious and negative
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Or what to do with growing up.
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No, I don't want that.
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It has nothing to do with me.
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Bye bye.
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And then the just kids get sometime at the beginning, mid-20s so
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And the wicked in the worst case.
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And then, oh, I'm...
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That's totally...
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The statement could now also come from someone who is well over 60.
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Watch out.
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I'm sure you'll be able to sign it that way.
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The people of today who fart once wrong and say,
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Oh, I'm stressed, I'm totally, you know, burnout, I'm stressed.
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They're just so stressed out because of every little shit.
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And all well, everyone has their own limits mentally.
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But especially if you have a friendship, such a relationship,
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The communication has to fit.
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You can't always pull back with every little crap
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and say, "No, I don't want that, I'm pulling back now.
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I can't, I can't, I don't write anymore,
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You're being blocked now. This whole ghosting generation, this whole "No, I don't want, I don't want" and blah.
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People sometimes seem to me to be in their mid, late 20s or even in their 30s, as if they were the little son of a child.
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Really. Those who stay away from everything and everyone. Problems too.
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What? I'm in debt? No, no. I don't open the mailbox anymore.
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What? Did I get bills? I'm not interested.
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What? You want to talk to me about this and that? Oh, no.
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Like doctor's appointments, for example. I take blood three or four times a year.
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My expat, for example, she never did that.
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She said, "No, I don't want to, I don't need to, if I'm sick somehow."
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I don't even want to know.
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I don't want to, I don't want to, I don't want to, I don't want to, I don't want to, I don't want to, I don't want to, I don't want to, I
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I can't do that.
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You know, they're not even trying.
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I think most of them, so that's a positive point now.
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I think most, so we can learn from each other, the young, from the old, and vice versa.
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I think most young people are especially concerned about social media.
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and the technology behind it is so ultra-intelligent and smart,
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Because they know so much, don't they?
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Yes, but that's limited.
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They can use apps,
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they can move in the portals, in the apps
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They also understand the mechanisms.
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But the basic technologies behind it,
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They don't understand that.
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And I see that over and over again.
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What makes sense?
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So I think that wisdom can be learned by older people in quotation marks.
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And what I could say, what we could learn from them, for example,
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It's just that this is quickly dealing with things, because we are older, so the older ones of us,
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They often have the problem when they say, "But what is that? What? That's an AI?
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No, I don't want that. That didn't happen before. I don't want that.
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So, you know what I mean? We also have our problems.
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So that's why I say yes, you can learn from each other.
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But we have this empathy for the most part.
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We are creative. We ask people, even if we don't know them.
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Let's ask, do you know what the day was like?
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Or you're trying to get a little involved.
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And people just have a problem with that.
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I don't know. It's strange to me personally.
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I mean, to get to the point because of the, so because you told your story briefly before, because of knowing, getting to know women, to close the topic so for me.
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I met my first friend on Facebook because she celebrated my music. My second girlfriend was basically friends with my best friend at the time.
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I met my third friend on the way.
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With a group of friends, that was nice,
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Because you really got to know people,
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Without filters, without all that stuff.
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Yes, and sometime later so
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I've met a lot of other contacts,
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Where it hasn't been with a relationship.
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Yes, there came the said lady from YouTube,
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I met him on Facebook in a group.
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And my last partner was somehow with YouTube
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So connected as a spectator.
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Well, I'm not anti right now, am I?
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I'm not saying you can't meet people anymore.
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We met online as well.
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That's also, uh...
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The big plus, the big thumb goes up from the Internet,
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that you can meet many people,
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They might be a good fit for you. - Yes.
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Unlike colleagues,
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With which you basically only share the work, right?
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But the Internet also has this in mind.
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There are a lot of downsides to communication.
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Do you have a few points that you could name now,
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so own experiences, where your dark sides lie to you
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What did you notice?
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So,
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Once upon a time, the trolls,
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But that's always been a problem
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have been. It used to be in the
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Mailboxes were a problem.
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Later on in the forums,
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then stop over
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Facebook and so on,
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YouTube and so on, that's it.
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There was and there is
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And there will always be.
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But,
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that people simply move quickly
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pull out of a discussion if it becomes too much for them or if you don't have the same
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If you think so, then the insults go really fast. I mean, it's easier,
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To write someone "you asshole" than to say it in the face. Yeah, what else? That people
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Just a lot quicker, then, you know what, I don't like you, I block you.
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Yes, it just goes much faster. I mean, you can do that in your private environment.
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Or not doing so. Yes, my neighbor goes above me a lot on the transmitter, yes, and there can
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I also don't just go and say I'm blocking you now, you're a bit dumb.
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I can't do that. Those are the differences. I know a purely analog world. And if
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We wanted to meet, either I went or I called before. Man
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We had to communicate with each other. Now you go and write a few lines and then the
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Communication. Yes, and I see this also with my youngest nephews, younger nephews, that the
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Yes, start writing WhatsApp messages and then make an appointment to play
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Or stop over mobile Roblox and Fortnite and gamble on these things. Yes, it stops,
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It's a different time, a different approach to all the technology that goes without saying.
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They are, and will be, more radical. You go to the sack, zack, blocked. And
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It's quiet. Yes, if I just went to the station with someone earlier in school, either
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I avoided it and had to run around it or I had to endure it for a short time,
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That annoying person was there. And I think that's one thing,
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Which you just have to learn. Imagine that you are in your professional life and you have
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There really is a work colleague or colleague who goes to you animal on the transmitter. Yes,
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You can't just stay away from work just because that person goes to the station,
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but you just have to learn, okay, some time of my day I'm with this
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Person together and that's what I have to learn to endure. And I think they're so negative.
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Things you have from a pure life or a pure communication from the Internet.
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That's why I say, the younger ones of today, they grew up on the Internet.
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Almost. That's totally normal. Just like you said, which I noticed too, super nasty,
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On the internet, you never know who's in front of you.
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Even if you knew that person now, I don't know,
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50 is or something, or male, or female, or whatever,
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People who don't have decency anymore.
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They think that for me the person is now an asshole.
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I am communicating this now.
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An asshole is still a harmless meaning.
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That with "refiltered out blown out".
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"Refiltered out blown out," so.
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They wouldn't do that in real life.
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So, I've never experienced that I now...
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There are two or three times when someone has fooled me.
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Where you thought it most of the time.
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Yeah, or where you thought it mostly, or where you once said, uh, what did I do to you,
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What a problem you have with me. But on the internet so, oh, zack, come on, I'm insulting the
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Person now, I go there now somehow on the sack and then the person is blocked anyway,
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All is well. And that's so super exhausting. I have a lot of women after my breakup.
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met and also all super nice girls, so definitely so well known it is also
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super okay. And I also noticed because I'm also talking about my hobbies and how you
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I go to the gym a lot for my health and everything.
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And then they said some of them, I couldn't do that.
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What if I'm being approached by someone?
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It's like when I'm being addressed and when I'm doing something wrong, I say, yes, that's nice.
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If someone talks to you nicely and says, ey, I've noticed that you're doing the exercises a bit wrong or something,
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Shall I tell you how to do it right?
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I thought that was all right.
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Ah, no, I don't want to be addressed.
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Then you'll get something like, yeah, no, I'll do something like that at home,
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Rather a few squats at home, look, a few, this homework, uh, what's the name of the homework, this, this, uh, what's that called?
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Oh, the workouts, you know, for home stop in principle, this whole, you know, this training session, where you can do at home.
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Oh, I'd rather do that and then I don't have to talk to anyone.
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You know what I noticed? Oh, I would have liked to have been there ultra.
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I once had a buddy who was a bit younger, I could have asked him now, matching the conversation.
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This whole generation with homeschooling and home office and so on,
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you know where in all these, what were the platforms called,
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Do you know where they've been in all these calls?
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Yes, Zoom-Call and Skype and hasn't seen them.
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So, people were mostly there, because that's what my ex-partner did,
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If she had such a thing, because of her education, it was really so,
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They were really sitting there and they were really quiet.
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And really, they didn't even listen properly.
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I asked, do you get everything and listen?
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No, I've made it completely quiet on my laptop.
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I don't know, on the PC.
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And by the way, I'm playing something.
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And how do you get the stuff?
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Yeah, pff, good luck.
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That's, you know, that's a little bit like this...
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What do you call that? I'm just missing the word.
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So, you know, they're so...
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They don't really care.
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They think it will fit somehow.
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But it doesn't fit at the front and not at the back.
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Before, when you were in training,
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You were poor.
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Do you remember where I was in the Bundeswehr?
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That's when you didn't listen,
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You've been attacked for it.
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Today it's kind of like saying you can't be hostile to me,
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I'll show them or something.
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Just like all these disrespects.
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For example, in the case of civil servants, this is only a minor point.
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People don't get right anymore, I don't know.
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There's someone standing in front of you who could be your grandma,
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They say you don't have anything to say to me and blah blah.
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And then spit on the floor to let the alpha hang out again briefly.
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So I know, not all of them are like that, of course, there are enough examples that lead positively.
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But these are things I think so, so something went wrong in education
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Is it in people's minds or social media? I don't know.
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I can only tell you one story about my foster son.
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He's in his mid-twenties now, a little over it.
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He has a good friend of his, so his childhood friend,
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He just met a girl.
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They came together and also visited.
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He stayed with her, she stayed with him.
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And then he moved with his grandmother, with whom he now lives together, to Dortmund.
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She had been there a few times and so on.
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And the boy almost didn't learn how to deal with girls.
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And then she was there, and then she dealt with Grandma,
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while he stops there in five, six hours
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Call of Duty was on socks.
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You have to imagine that.
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You really have a picture-hugging girl sitting there,
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and you'd rather be there with the guys Call of Duty on socks,
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Instead of spending a weekend with your girlfriend.
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Yes, it is...
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You know, you could say now,
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There is no one to teach you.
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I can imagine that I grew up without my producer.
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My mother, in the course of time,
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When I was five or six years old, a friend,
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or a new spouse,
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with whom she is still with today.
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And took over a little bit of the stuff,
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financial matters and so on.
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Has a lot to offer as a family head or as a...
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as the person who leads the family a little bit and so on.
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Everything was clear, but the emotional was gone.
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0:49:45 – 0:49:49
And I was also not explained in any way how to do this and that and that with women somehow.
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0:49:49 – 0:49:54
They said, "You have to see what you're doing, how you're doing it, and I don't know what."
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It was not explained to me, it was not explained to me.
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That was just when I was in puberty,
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0:49:58 – 0:50:02
Yes, and how far are you? Did you do this and that with a girl?
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There you were, there you were ashamed just for it,
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With me, I didn't have my first stop until I was 18, you know, and I was just so,
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I was ashamed of it extremely.
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0:50:14 – 0:50:17
I've had an interest in women, and I've had a bit of an interest in women.
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Sucking around, but that one didn't happen at all.
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And there was no one there to explain it to me.
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And it was also said that you have to see what you are doing.
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These days, they just do something like that, they think so, yes, they will stop.
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Probably already fit.
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0:50:33 – 0:50:37
I don't want to know how many people are in a relationship of boys,
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who somehow don't love each other at all or don't know what,
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where there's some kind of alienation or something, where then, you know, where people say,
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0:50:45 – 0:50:48
Well, the person doesn't have to know, because communication is also possible.
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Someday it will come out somehow, then take a look.
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They distance themselves from each other.
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0:50:52 – 0:50:56
What I said earlier, which I think is a great shame,
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People are separated and that's it.
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That's it. There's no friendship, there's no loyalty,
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that you are still there for each other, humanly speaking,
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Because they were humanly good too.
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The relationship is around, out of sight, out of mind,
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You no longer exist for me, all is well.
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As if extremely bad things were happening.
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0:51:14 – 0:51:17
And of course, everyone like him like that, I don't want now either
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with every ex-partner I've had,
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0:51:20 – 0:51:22
lead an extremely blatant, intimate friendship.
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0:51:22 – 0:51:26
But that's sometimes so unpleasant these days.
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0:51:26 – 0:51:29
I mean, what if people see each other on the street?
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0:51:29 – 0:51:33
There's a nod, there's a "Hi, moin, how are you?"
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0:51:33 – 0:51:36
Somehow a "oh no, I can't run the person away quickly" so you understand,
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0:51:36 – 0:51:40
What do I mean? So a colleague of mine said he met his ex-wife on the
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Street and then he said he took his legs in his hand and walked on,
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0:51:44 – 0:51:47
Hold on extremely fast. I'm so "okay." Yeah, I didn't say hello or anything like that.
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0:51:47 – 0:51:51
I didn't want that, it's good. So I, if I were to see them, I'd say
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0:51:51 – 0:51:56
My ex-partner, I'd just say "hey, all right with you?" and that's it,
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0:51:56 – 0:52:00
Then I would keep walking. But now the whole head is stuck in the sand,
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0:52:00 – 0:52:03
Oh no, it doesn't exist at all, all right, I'm not there at all,
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0:52:03 – 0:52:06
You know, smoke fiber wallpaper, nice.
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0:52:06 – 0:52:07
I wouldn't be like that now.
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So I still have a bit of decency,
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0:52:10 – 0:52:13
To say, ey, that's like, you probably know,
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0:52:13 – 0:52:16
People who completely screw up their ex-partners on social media.
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0:52:16 – 0:52:18
I mean, you're just complaining a little
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0:52:18 – 0:52:20
Let me tell you a few things, like now,
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0:52:20 – 0:52:23
Yeah, my ex-partner, okay, that's normal in most cases.
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0:52:23 – 0:52:26
But this "Oh, the person was so shitty and so ugly and in general
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You were with that person once.
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0:52:28 – 0:52:32
I mean, there were moments when you really fell in love with the person and you looked … in the eye.
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0:52:32 – 0:52:35
You know, did you like being with that person?
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0:52:35 – 0:52:40
And these days, nö, there you get blocked, you no longer exist for me and blah and blubb.
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0:52:40 – 0:52:44
That must be super uncomfortable when you get in touch with people's parents, so,
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0:52:44 – 0:52:47
and who thought you were a good guy or a good girl.
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And that's where things really come out.
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0:52:49 – 0:52:54
So, personally, no, I'm glad I'm out of there.
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So I got along well with everyone,
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I enjoyed a great education though.
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I know how to deal with girls...
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Yeah, I know how to be like that, you know what I mean?
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0:53:04 – 0:53:06
And I don't know, these days,
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0:53:06 – 0:53:08
It's getting worse in relationships.
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and also outside the acquaintance phases.
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I don't know.
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0:53:11 – 0:53:13
I have to do something for a moment,
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0:53:13 – 0:53:16
Because I write like this to myself...
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0:53:16 – 0:53:20
Not table points, but the timestamps a bit.
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0:53:20 – 0:53:23
Uh, what would interest me, your opinion...
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0:53:23 – 0:53:24
Yes, yes.
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I wanted to make my own video on YouTube.
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0:53:27 – 0:53:28
The dating platform.
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0:53:28 – 0:53:30
You cut it earlier,
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0:53:30 – 0:53:33
That you've never had any problems with anything like this, or that you've had such active contact with it.
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0:53:33 – 0:53:37
Um, I got after the breakup, but that was sometime later,
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I felt kind of alone
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I didn't want a rebound relationship or anything.
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Rebound, that is, in principle,
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That you're headed straight for something new.
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And to suffocate this loneliness in the bud,
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It is nothing half and nothing whole.
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And I have sometime many weeks later
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0:53:53 – 0:53:57
a buddy of mine said, you just log in to the dating platforms,
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0:53:57 – 0:54:00
At LaVou and what they're all called, Tinder and so on.
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And what experiences I've had there, especially with Tinder, so completely superficial
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the platforms, they have such a profile of what they want to have in the relationship,
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where you can look, ah, have I that, ah, nee, ah, that, ah, okay, nee, okay, that, ah,
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Maybe.
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And I don't know, sorry for the moaning now again,
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0:54:20 – 0:54:23
But before, you have known men,
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You thought one or two hobbies were cool about what the person did,
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You have exchanged a bit of weaknesses and strengths,
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about the favorite movies, and you just asked,
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You, let's meet for a movie.
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Yeah, sure, why not? And then it fit.
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And then it didn't fit. And if it didn't fit, you said,
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you, you're super nice like that, but I don't know,
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We can stay friends and see what happens.
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Or you just took the person in your arms, tried to kiss them or vice versa and then you were just a couple and it fit.
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So, nowadays everything is like this, 80,000 requirements, 80,000 "You have to do this, you have to do this and so you have to be and so big and the bust has to be right and your feet just have to be so big and if not..."
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0:55:06 – 0:55:08
Oh, that's so complicated.
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0:55:08 – 0:55:12
I'm not a friend of having children.
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I don't want it, I don't want it, I somehow never wanted it.
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And everyone who does it, it's all good.
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Everyone, as he likes, if he can be there for the children, all well.
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But how do the people of today want to continue to reproduce?
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I mean, in Germany, it's getting less and less with the offspring, you know what I mean?
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0:55:27 – 0:55:31
So, what's your opinion on that? I'd be interested.
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0:55:31 – 0:55:33
Well, you mentioned a few things like that.
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Of course, I had also been on various dating platforms and also on platforms,
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0:55:42 – 0:55:50
Even if you were explicitly looking for only one. It's all rubbish because women
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0:55:50 – 0:55:57
They are so bombarded by men. You don't have a chance if you don't somehow
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0:55:57 – 0:56:05
The maximum number of women writing every day. And that they are annoyed because they are constantly a full
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0:56:05 – 0:56:12
I have a mailbox, I understand. So completely there. I'm from a woman every now and then
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They were written, then they exchanged a little bit. For most, it has
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0:56:16 – 0:56:23
Don't stop fitting. And well, with one or two I had really nice experiences too
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Repeatedly? There's no question. I've never been so active on the regular dating platform.
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I signed up once, but that's all. Like I said, women are here.
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written to death and most of the time you have to pay as a man anyway,
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So you can do something. It's so bad these days,
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It wasn't, but let's keep talking. Then you said,
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Women have demands on their partners.
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The reverse is the same.
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Yes, well, but I mean, regular income and being self-employed compared to the woman must have big horns.
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I can understand woman that she doesn't want to be a mother to an adult man and then have to settle all sorts of things for him
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He also pays for it, because in the worst case he gets citizen money and she goes
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You have to work and you have to finance it. I find this demand totally legitimate. And above all,
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The whole movement since the 1970s with the rights for women has led to the fact that the
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Women today are so well-educated, so well-earned, that even without a provider, they
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You can get along and find the right partner with whom you can
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I want to be able to create a future that suits your wishes and not that I
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The home has to be close to the heart and has only two worries. What to wear and what to cook
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Eating for my husband tonight? And in between the women's gold pops into me,
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Otherwise, I can't stand the day any other way.
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I think it's totally okay and totally normal.
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I mean, I also have ideas and wishes,
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How a partner should be.
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Why shouldn't a woman have that?
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And the topic of child-bearing and education and so on,
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This is such a huge issue.
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You could do your own follow-up on this,
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Because there is so much to tell.
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A lot to tell. I have two playgrounds in the immediate vicinity. What I represent
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Come on, that's unbelievable. But back here again. I think it's totally normal,
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You want to know how to be a partner and what it is.
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Now not a big house, a big car and all that, but just that this is a real man,
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who is self-employed, who does not need an adult mother, who shakes him and everything
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how she makes, but who can make his own decisions, who can make his own clothes
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who doesn't need a woman to buy the laundry for him, but he does it himself
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or hang out with her and sometimes the woman also buys because she wants to do him something good,
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Just like he's getting her something as a little thank you. Yes, so these
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Ordinary things that are totally normal to me. And I can understand if
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A woman says I don't want that if he doesn't.
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I take this for granted. As I said, women these days.
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due to the fact that they also make their good money, and that is also
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That's right, no longer dependent on her finding a man to take care of her.
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Yes and then stop this typical career, woman, mother, saint and whore and so on,
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You know that. I think that's all right. All right, I definitely agree with you,
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on the points. Of course, logically, I think it's also great that we are in this regard in the
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Society has developed there as well. What I always find a bit of a pity, I mean,
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Sure, you also have your ideas when you sign up for a platform now,
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where you're dating someone now or where you're looking for more than just fun.
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Of course, there are demands, of course.
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Sure, I mean, you get the income that you don't put people in your pocket
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or that you don't let the child hang out in any way, nobody wants that in principle.
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I'm sure there are men and women out there who might like it a little bit.
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There's also a daddy or mother to play with.
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Yes, Daddy.
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You know what?
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All right, no matter how.
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So it wouldn't be mine now,
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'Cause I noticed that in my old relationship,
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This constant "I must stand above her,
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I have to explain everything to her all the time.
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I don't want that part.
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I think at what point I would be critical,
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As I said, they don't need a supplier anymore.
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the ladies do their own thing, I think that's great,
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I think this is even more recommendable,
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that they develop in this way,
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that we are equal, even in such matters,
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small sections, because I don't want to have a woman who has to cook continuously
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Or so, because I can cook myself, you know?
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I can do my laundry, I can cook, I learned that back then, I was still there
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Not even a teenager, I've already learned this because my mother led me there,
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with cooking, with me, with cleaning the bathroom, with what do I know, I was taught,
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to pee while sitting, because my mother can also simply remove the ruin spots,
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So you see, I'm actually such a...
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Well, I'm...
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You know, I'm just so clean.
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I would never ask that of a woman.
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Even if, for example, I were somehow career-wise somewhere,
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where it would be very difficult for me to run a budget,
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I don't want the woman to do everything alone.
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Yeah, but if you have enough money, you're gonna get someone to do it for you.
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You'll pay him for it.
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Or something like that.
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As I said, I personally am not a fan of someone having to play the mother,
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The mother.
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No, that's how I get it.
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And vice versa, I think that's absolutely the case.
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Every day I have to play Daddy.
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And I had a discussion about it a few weeks ago.
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I was in contact with a woman who said she wanted a
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It's the one who pays her everything where she can be influenced.
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So, no? And a guy who pays almost everything.
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And I just said, well, if you find someone like that,
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All right, all right.
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But that's exactly what you have to bring with you.
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You want an old-fashioned man who goes to work alone,
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This is very difficult in today's financial situation.
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Apart from that.
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But you want to be a woman, so in the example now,
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so as a woman want to have a guy who goes to work, who goes to work alone,
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You can do your things at home, yes.
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But please, if you are looking for an old-fashioned man,
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An old-fashioned woman at home
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Laundry washes and cooks and so on and so forth.
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That's a real truck drive, isn't it?
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For me it wouldn't be anything. I don't like something like that.
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Because when they both go to work, you have to share the budget.
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You know?
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And that everyone brings their own money,
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Then you plan things together.
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I'm a fan of separate wallets.
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that you just plan the most necessary things together somehow,
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But not in any way...
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I noticed that with my parents.
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Father brings the money home, treats himself in principle as good as nothing and mother gives it off.
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So sure, it sounds funny and so, so stereotypical Mario Barth-like, so okay, but...
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I don't know, we are in the new generation.
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Women earn their own money, women have their own desires and demands, which they also fulfill themselves.
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If you want to be old-fashioned, be...
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So, you know, if you want an old-fashioned partner, so now as a man, then be old-fashioned too.
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Personally, I am not a fan of it.
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I am cool with it or would be cool with being a housekeeper who takes care of the child, for example, if the woman now has a better profession than I do, so this topic.
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And vice versa, as I said, in today's generation, because everything is becoming more expensive, you are usually obliged to bring the coal home.
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Yeah, anyway. Especially when there are children. You'll be able to do something somewhere.
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And I have a housekeeper who comes here once a week and then does the things,
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Which I can't do, like wiping the floor or cleaning the windows. Yes,
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I can't do that after the stroke, so not because I couldn't.
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Because I didn't learn it, but because I can't do it physically anymore. And then
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You talk about it too. And yes, her husband goes to work, earns good money,
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But to have the standard of living that you can go on holiday twice a year,
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For Christmas you can be a little more generous towards the two children.
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She also goes to work half a day, then comes home, then does something, her husband cooks and
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Not because she can't cook, but that's the division they have.
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And it's going well, but both of them have to go to work to make sure that's right with the money. And I
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I can understand when a young woman just says today that I no longer want to keep such a complete catastrophe at home,
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where I stop, I go to work, I have to do the whole household, if there are still children, I have to take care of the children.
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So care work plus normal work and the guy just kind of goes to work eight hours a day, comes home and says,
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My God, I'm so done!
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And now do your more cheerful duties.
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I need deep relaxation.
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I can understand it when you just say no and then look for something new, right?
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Just like I have a circle of acquaintances, you know what?
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I don't have a partner for now,
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But I will be better off with my children if I do not have a third child.
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The original quote.
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Hardly anyone wants that these days. I mean, who's on it, okay, but I don't think you want that in most cases.
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No.
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Like I said, I saw it that way with my ex-partner and I loved her the way she was, but she was just a little ….
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I mean, we talked about it briefly, she and I, in hindsight, at some point, when
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we had such nice moments in this acquaintance, which it was always when she was there
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has agreed, she had the desire, you know, with her father so, this typical,
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she pulls around, she throws the room door as a child, what do I know, and he then comes after
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Run, ah, what's going on and all that.
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And she demanded it partly from me.
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And just because I said, be careful, I don't have the guts to run after you over and over again,
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'Cause I deserved to have people come to me and look for communication,
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Has she ever dropped such a sentence or said a sentence in the relationship,
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blablabla, blablabla, that's unmanly.
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Then I meant, no, that's not unmanly, that's just, I don't have the guts to be the daddy for you.
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Yes, yes.
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So if you constantly expect your partner to run after you,
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Because that's what she did to another ex-partner before me,
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is almost gone, made out mobile phone and wanted to be searched,
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I find it childish.
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And if you are still stuck in your childhood,
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that you want to be sought,
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because you then developed a daddy complex,
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Then you have to treat it therapeutically.
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Or you need a partner who says, yeah, well, all right, I'll stop.
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I personally did it at the beginning,
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I ran after him, and at some point I couldn't do it anymore.
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And for a moment, another topic that fits.
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Through all these phases of getting to know each other now in retrospect, after the separation,
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I've met so many women who have gone through this whole thing.
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I'm making myself interesting now by making myself rare.
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or "I'm writing to you now because you're doing this and that"
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and this head, in English one says mindgames,
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these head games all the time, that's so distracting,
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This is so unattractive to me.
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If I, then I am not,
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If I were now so that I would say,
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I just don't write for three days.
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to make me a little special.
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Then I don't need a woman to say,
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Tell me, what's going on, what did I do wrong?
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But I'm into a woman who says,
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You, watch out, I don't know what kind of kindergarten shit
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You're just ignoring me,
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But do it for yourself, I'll go.
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Because I'm such a guy now.
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When I realize the person is getting rare,
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not because she has less time,
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but because she thinks she has to play head games,
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I've had seven relationships now.
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I'm almost 31 now.
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And I want to run after this whole thing.
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And then... I'm dumb.
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And then you get blocked, then you get hosted.
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And when you say "criticism,"
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You're the last ass in the world anyway.
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I can't find that anymore.
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When I say something that is hurtful,
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then please say, ey, that hurt me a lot,
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Let's talk about it.
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And if I did something good,
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I'm also looking forward to your opinion,
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Also on the subject of communication. Personally, I think it's cool, so such a project, what you do
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In relationships, because you see yes, in relationships there is always quarrel, you get insulted
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and so on. What does it look like if you get together once a week?
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You sit down, what you already do anyway, and you say, you, what did I like about this week and what did I like about it?
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What did I find pooping? For example, on Monday you have my feet, you see no idea,
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And then we watched a movie together.
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or you bought something from the Chinese,
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or I don't know what, or I told you a secret,
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or I told you something about work,
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Which was very personal.
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We laughed together and that was great.
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Or A, on Wednesday you kind of said,
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that I somehow, I don't know,
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that somehow I said something,
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what was poopy, something critical, so,
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The good things and the bad things,
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that happened when you talked about it openly and said,
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Be careful, I thought it was good and I didn't think it was so good now.
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That would be an idea for a relationship, you know.
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So meeting-wise it's easy.
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Yes, yes.
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You know, and that's what I saw and I thought this video was great,
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Because that would have saved a lot, for example in my relationships, I think.
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Because everything was simply concealed and concealed and concealed.
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Yeah, that's right, until the barrel has run over somewhere, right?
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Yeah, I know, too.
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But I also know that people are discussing all kinds of shit forever.
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And not because you're having a fight, but because you're trying to find something constructive.
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But with some things you can not find a solution, because one has a wish and the other
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It cannot be fulfilled because for some other reason.
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Let's say there's not enough sex in the relationship.
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So, one says you'd like to have more sex and the other says I have little,
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Not so much lust.
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You can't go there and force lust, but either you get out somehow,
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how to get him to get a goat now, or how to get him to live with it,
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There's not that much about sex. Yes, so there you can discuss,
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discuss until our Neverland Day, you will not come on a green branch. Or
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if one of them goes there and has a problem with his finances, because he always
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Spending too much. Yes, then you can discuss it and in the worst case there is
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pocket money. God, how I hate that term. Yes, and when that's gone, then it's gone
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away. Sometimes there are things about it that you can discuss, but it doesn't bring a solution. Yes,
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You always have to find the golden path. Clear communication is also very important in
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The relationship. And, for example, in relationships where I was with someone and where you
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If you have earned your own money, it has always been so, you have different amounts of money.
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Earned money. And then you sat down somewhere once when you moved together
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He was, and still is, concerned about whether he would pay. Half, half. If both are equal
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Earning is okay. But what if the one now earns 10 or 20 percent more like
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The other one? This is half-righteous, because the other has much less,
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Viewed as a percentage. And if the other one went and said,
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OK, I pay more because I earn so much and so much percent more,
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If I pay so much more, it's fairer. Although it is still more
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money is available. Yes, so you always have to talk about it and then you find
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constructively any solutions. Yes, you should do something like this, but you also need to know where
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The boundaries are this conflict resolution. I think in relationships it's always a little bit
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It's awkward when you think, oh, it can't be that way or that. I have with my
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Brother lived together for many years, I don't know any more, six, seven, eight years,
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Something like that on average. It was always like that. From the money, huh? Half, half. half rent,
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Half electricity, half everything stops in principle. So he made shopping for himself. He has
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own fridge in the room and I had my fridge and that was always great in
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order. But if you both have the same amount of money, that's fine. Yes, well, but if now
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For example, a person would have had more money now, so that would be now as siblings,
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That would not have been a problem now. I mean, even if now, if you're in a relationship like this
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have. I would handle it in such a way that I would say, well, the person did it himself.
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In quotation marks, to have more money than I do. I can't do anything for and for them.
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Not a person now either. Anyway, I'd make half of it, but I'd stop.
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Then, logically, because it's a relationship, open to being told you, I don't know,
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I have now somehow 50 euros more than the person, even 100, is a better bill,
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and the person says, well, it's not enough for me now, no idea, I don't know,
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I have seen shoes that are on sale for 50, I wanted to buy them, but
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It's a little tight.
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Then I would just say, oh clear, logical, no problem, help you out.
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So you know what I mean?
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Okay, let's take an example.
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You'll get a math bill.
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There's a nurse and a doctor are a couple or a nurse and a doctor
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They're a couple.
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One earns 3.5 and the other 7.5.
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If the two make half, it looks really bad for the caregiver.
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So if you live in a normal apartment now, then you can stop.
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These are normal.
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Yeah, but if you make that much money, you're not gonna give yourself a 70-square-foot.
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Looking for an apartment.
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Then you'll take …
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I'd do it this way, I'll tell you what it's like.
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Then you take a bigger apartment.
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I'm pretty minimalist.
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I think if you just say watch out, let's move into a house where you have yours,
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does not pay 1500 or 2000 then rent per month, if it is not property, so if it is then
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is on rent, then logical, then you have to look then, okay, how do we do this now,
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because there can be bad the person then who does not know three or three, five then deserves
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Insert 1000. It works, too, but do you understand what I mean? So that's where the situation comes in
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It's on. Exactly, there is this with the percentage, with income-dependent participations of the
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The cost of living, you're totally on the fair side.
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Now I'd say, watch out, the one who earns more takes care of the rent
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and maybe purchasing and the other person then makes such an incidental cost, electricity, Internet
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And so on and so forth, you know what I mean?
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I think there could be a situational solution.
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Of course, about … But in normal situations …
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You have to talk about it.
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This is also part of communication.
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Exactly.
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And then one person, that would be my greatest horror,
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a person who has an addiction to buying and who has had it before,
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since her coal is blowing out the first five days for not knowing anything,
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And then you know, I haven't even transferred electricity yet.
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So, okay, cool.
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Sure, that's just shit.
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I know a lot of people who say,
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No, we'll do the purse together.
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I have never been a friend of this system.
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I mean, of course, if you ever have a family and so on, it looks a little different when you have kids and so on, but
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I see this from my best friend, for example, who is also a caregiver and deserves to stop.
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So not enough in quotes, but enough that she can just feel wishful.
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If she had a partner, half, half, always.
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Each separate wallet.
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Yes, well, that's always the comparison with the doctor and the nurse.
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Of course, it is already extreme, because the incomes are very different.
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If both earn roughly the same, that's perfectly fine.
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So there are a lot of people who say, boah, what kind of person are you?
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As I said, the financial situations in Germany have changed a lot or in general worldwide.
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This old system, which certainly still exists,
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but if someone earns his, don't know, one, seven net
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In one, in quotation marks, dirty job or something,
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or a little bit of it just deserves too little,
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It can't fulfill 1,000 wishes.
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So, isn't it?
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So, you have to look, so what goals you have.
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Whether you meet a partner who now likes to go on holiday,
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Twice a year, you have to see how it goes.
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Personally, I am a pretty simple person.
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I live every day and love. - Mhm.
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And I don't need any more in life to say,
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I'll fly away or something.
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Yeah, someday, maybe, maybe not.
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You can satisfy me in this regard.
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or restrained by, I don't know,
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You have a cool communication with me about technology or something.
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And yes, I buy my own games, for example,
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I finance my hobbies myself.
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I don't have big claims.
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My life is simple,
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I have nowhere to pay 80,000 debts or bills.
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Life is super clear. That was my word that I lacked. And accordingly we need
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I am also a partner who is the same. 'Cause maybe you can now, if you like your
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Having introverted hobbies and low income, you can't smile at a partner now,
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Which then somehow, don't know, has to fly on vacation ten times a year and that and that. So you can
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You do, but then you have to see how it fits. So in this regard because of claims,
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What we had, I understand. With Tinder, I didn't mean anything.
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with money or something, but they have such claims, know this typical, the man must be two meters
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The man has to look like that and so on. There is, for example. Yes, there is also on TikTok,
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videos like that. The man must do that, the man must do that, the man must do that, the man must do that, the man must do that,
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The man has to do that, and yes, what do you do? Hi there? Except to look nice? Hi there? What? Yes, so I
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In two relationships, we had three accounts.
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My partner and I, each an account where the salary went down.
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And then we had a joint account where everyone paid something on it,
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from which all the costs were paid.
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And that was super easy, very simple.
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You know how much you spend on food each month.
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You know about how much the fixed costs are.
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are. Yes, that's all the sizes that are there. And then you have your card, with which
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You go shopping. Of course you have to take a look at the account again and again,
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Look at what's going on and quickly grab a hundred from the account. To the
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The other account is also in jeopardy. It's wonderful, so you can do the whole thing.
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Finances are unravelling. Everyone has their own money. There is the common money and is good,
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I really don't understand that there are such problems.
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I know if you're married, that's a community of gains, so if you're not
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There is no such thing as "this is yours and this is mine," but everything.
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What is earned during marriage is then shared.
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I'm a big friend of segregation.
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So everyone still has his own and I don't think anything about it, if you are in a partnership, that the ego is erased and replaced by a we.
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Oh yes, big point, important point.
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If in the communication then it's just saying things like "we don't like that", well, maybe you don't like that, but the other one, I know for sure that he likes that.
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I met that once in my sister's relationship.
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He's heard more dead pants and so on.
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And the other person, my sister before that, heard techno, boygroups and stuff like that.
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And as soon as she was in the relationship, it was all gone.
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And then there was only somehow his interests and his ideas, his values.
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And there was sort of my sister, sort of her stuff, they were kind of gone.
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I mean, I've been to two people now, the one who demands it and the other who lets it go with him.
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Yes, but that had been so cringe, especially always such sentences, we don't like that.
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And you know very well, your sister, who has a classical music education, who loves classical music.
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Yeah, and she loves going to the theater.
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And then, yes, rather little educated, little cultural education.
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We don't like that.
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And you just think so, mhm, but with my sister it's completely different, with your wife.
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She loves culture, she loves classical music.
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Yeah, what can you say about that?
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Um, that would be super stressful for me.
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Uh, I think where I wouldn't get along in the relationship,
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It would be great if the person didn't play games at all.
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It had nothing to do with YouTube.
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Because these are my main hobbies, I'll tell you.
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Because I like to play and still do enough,
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in quotation marks.
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Even if it got less.
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Uh, and YouTube, I love YouTube,
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I watch YouTube every time I eat something.
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I watch YouTube before I go to sleep.
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YouTube is for me what a lot of TV is.
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And I can't do it with it...
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Sure, I met a lady,
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where I told you privately before.
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She wasn't much older than me,
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And she doesn't have that.
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Not a YouTube.
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Aren't you a little too old for that?
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That was the best.
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So, she really said to me,
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Socially, she was such a nice person.
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We exchanged ideas about hobbies.
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I'm playing, you men and your gambling.
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That was the first.
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And then it was all about, yeah, what do you do?
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I watch a bit of YouTube, exactly, so gym videos, gaming and bla bla.
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YouTube and gaming.
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You don't think you're too old for that, for YouTube stuff?
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Shooting videos like that and something.
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And that's where my chin really fell down,
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Because I thought, what does it mean to be too old?
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First of all, you are never too old for your hobbies.
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And if you still assemble Lego models at 80,
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Assembling train models, what do I know?
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or if you play any children's games,
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in quotes, playing or what do I know,
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You can do it the way you do it.
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Firstly, this and secondly, just keep it simple.
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What does this have to do with it,
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Is it too old or not?
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I mean, it's a hobby, like any other,
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Like reading or something?
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And I found the statement so stupid and the person can be so nice
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or whatever or, for example, in the case when you now find yourself visually good.
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I don't care.
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So I'm not saying that now, as in your example,
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Yes, we have to do it, we love it, we like it.
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That's not right now, so everyone can still have their hobbies.
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But one must have such a common interest,
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What really connects you.
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And for me it's just playing.
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So imagine, in my example, you know,
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I go to the gym five or six times a week for my health and I love it so much now.
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I just love it and I haven't come to the end.
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And imagine there's a partner sitting there who
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It's the complete opposite of you. And that's okay, too. As I said, visually, I don't have any preferences about this now.
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So if a person is thinner or thicker, all is well. But most of the time you're there somehow,
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I don't know, so for three days only one or two hours in training.
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And hate a day, where you're kind of really bored and stop and think more,
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Oh, I'm going to do a little more cardio for the cardiovascular system.
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And you'll always be told something like,
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Yeah, I'm sure you've met your wife who looks better than me.
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And of course, there's such a thing, this rumble and so on.
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But for me it would be so exhausting, because then I would think,
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Come on, I'll drag you into training, then you'll see what's going on.
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And that's where I had this conversation with the person I just talked to.
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And so it was, oh no, you have to find compromises in the relationship.
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And if I somehow don't like it as a partner,
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That you come in so often, you don't have to go in so often.
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I say, jo, next point where I'm out,
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I'll do what I want if it doesn't fit.
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Jo, that's it.
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And I try to check this out beforehand in the acquaintance phase,
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Because I don't go down from my time with gambling and I don't go down from my gym.
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So you can like to say, while playing,
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I spend two hours a day, sometimes three.
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There are also days when I hang out a bit and play for seven hours.
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That's nothing reprehensible, I mean, streamers who gamble 15 hours a day.
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And when a person says, you, on Friday,
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Do you want to go to the movies together?
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"Ajo, of course," I say. Ajo, of course, we can do it.
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That you make movie nights together, that you cuddle together and so on.
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But if a person says I'll give you an hour,
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you have one hour maximum to gamble,
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I don't want anything else.
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I don't want to have a mother in the relationship.
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I want a person who is on an equal footing,
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And if she's playing... Yes, checkpot.
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So I've never had an ex-partner who has nothing to do with gambling.
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So all my ex-partner had something to do with gambling.
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I am also very grateful for that.
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I go to the gym just like that when you say,
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Well, okay, the person doesn't have to like it 100 percent,
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But gambling is the hobby for me.
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And if it doesn't fit with the hobbies.
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Yes, I can understand.
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I'm not, I'm really not a friend of this,
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What you said, we like that, we like that.
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We can be a team, we can be loyal and everyone should have their own jobs.
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You have your own friends and your own opinion. But one should somehow,
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you should already fit together somewhere and that's why I'm currently a friend of it,
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maybe meet a lady at the gym, because there are also enough pretty
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Ladies who have noticed me so. And there I see myself in it, because you just know there goes
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what. Because with my ex-partner, with whom I gambled mostly, everything was also supi,
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But with gym and nutrition it was so completely out.
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And yet it did fit to some extent because of the gambling.
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But a person like the lady where I told you,
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Private, so gamble, I'm too old for that.
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Okay, watch YouTube, how can you?
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So what do you want to do during the day?
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Somehow you want to knock out the window?
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So I have a neighbor here who's 70,
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He looks out the window for hours every day.
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And then complain to the neighbors that they haven't turned.
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I'm not that old yet.
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Really. I don't believe you either? So no, not yet. So to say one thing, my mother
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She's 72 and she's watching YouTube. She's watching content that I wouldn't watch right now, so
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Kalle cooks and stops any travel stuff and reports, things that interest her.
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Well, that's all right.
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Yeah, and that's perfectly okay, and it's really like that. She reads the news feed on Google and
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And then she has trained herself well, that just come the things she is interested in.
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Yeah, she's doing things like that, and that's 72.
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She says that's life now, it's becoming more and more digital.
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If I don't deal with it, I'm always totally hung up,
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Because it's becoming more and more digital.
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And if the bus ticket in paper form no longer exists,
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Then I'll just have to install the app and then I'll have the digital ticket.
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Yeah, because she understood, and then she doesn't shut up.
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So, the other point is, in my ex-relationship we had a lot about incisions and
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Same thing with hobbies.
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Just one thing, she had absolutely no interest in it and that was content creation.
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Yes, she had blocked at the beginning, at the first blog,
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But then I realized there wasn't enough reaction.
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What's hard about the fresh blog?
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Yes, you have to be there for a good two years,
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Until the first reactions come.
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Reactions regularly.
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And yes, she stopped that, too.
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Got me hooked up when I was talking to people.
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How did the first podcasts come out?
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She has also constantly followed me and then you lose the pleasure of it,
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Because if your partner is constantly making fun of you, that's a really shitty feeling.
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And with my current partner, with whom I also do podcasts,
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She doesn't write blog posts now, but she does with the music.
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Doing podcasts. Even if we were making videos now, you'd do it together
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Doing with me? Because we've also streamed live with her before. She has on her
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TikTok channel videos made and this is such a completely different level. I also play
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I also gamble, ne, and gamble.
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But I play other games and don't stop as much as they do.
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And it's just such an understanding of it.
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While we're recording our podcast here,
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She's in the living room playing with her people.
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Yes, depending on whether this is a rental period.
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Yes, exactly, and that's important to her, that's important to me.
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And those hours when she's playing,
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these two hours, two and a half hours,
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I'm going to stop my content.
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1:31:06 – 1:31:08
Um, yeah.
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Take pictures, edit them.
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And that's so cool, especially,
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Because then you can certainly be happy about small successes.
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And there is understanding for it.
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If you have a problem, you explain it.
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Then the other person understands that.
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I understand their gaming content, they understand my content.
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And that's really something productive and beneficial.
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That's really horny.
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I haven't had anything like that before.
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I've always had creative women.
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The first long-term relationship,
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She did a lot of handicrafts,
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Then she played a lot again for a while.
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Then she did something else for a while.
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It's always been that way throughout the year, hasn't it?
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And then there were the moments when we watched movies or series together,
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1:32:02 – 1:32:08
cooked together. That was so nicely conducive, but don't stop the interest,
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1:32:08 – 1:32:15
Something to do there somehow. To create music together or content together,
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1:32:15 – 1:32:20
Not so. This is the first time this has happened and I have to say,
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this is so cool and above all also so conducive to creativity. Yes, she has an idea,
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then we discuss this, then we implement it together, then our fun projects come along with
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the music at rum, yes, then idea for a podcast, we talked about it yesterday,
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We're going to do that, I think, on the weekend or maybe the week. This is
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It's so beautiful that it's so enriching.
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1:32:50 – 1:32:53
It's also enriching, I can imagine.
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1:32:53 – 1:32:57
Um, what I can say about that...
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Uh, right, the ex-partner I mentioned,
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with whom I have good contact these days,
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He was also a content creator at the time.
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That's why it worked well at the time,
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Because they complemented each other well.
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My current ex-partner,
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with whom I haven't been together for almost four months,
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As I said, she was... So, she had her quirks,
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But for me it wasn't that bad.
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I carried them with me in quotes.
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Um, to... I think it was two shots,
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Or three, from my gaming channel.
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And you said you'd be careful, what's it like?
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You're just there and, yeah, let's talk a little bit about the game,
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But not so much podcasting,
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We just play together, we chat a little.
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You got a buck on it? And ...
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In the first two shots she meant, yes, let's just give it a try.
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And I was happy about it because it was a wish from me.
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Everything worked out great and so on.
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And in the third shot you already noticed so, no idea what's going on?
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How are you today? Yeah, all right.
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It's like you're parked and not picked up.
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It's like you have no idea what to do now.
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I talked to him privately about it.
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And she said, I really don't dare.
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She was just such a person, Instagram private,
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don't post pictures, TikTok privately, if you don't follow her,
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You don't see what I repost.
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So, you can criticize it or find it good.
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Personally, I am a very glassy person,
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He is a very transparent, open person.
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So, the things I feel and don't feel,
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You can usually see this in my TikTok reposts.
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So, with us, so the younger generation at least,
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expresses her feelings a bit with these re-released videos from TikTok.
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With meta-messages, I know that's...
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Yeah, right? Just now. And I find that too, I find it cool, I find it very creative, this kind of language.
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Because if you somehow have ten videos about narcissism, then you know the person may have had a narcissistic partner.
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Uh, if you're affected, raise your hand for a moment, raise your hand for a moment. So, you know what I mean?
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I think the way is super cool.
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Uh, and I'm generally, as I said, a glass person in this regard.
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Uh, and don't have a problem talking about things now,
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It's like weaknesses, for example.
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I know people who say, boah, I couldn't do this now, no,
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Talk about depression on the internet or something.
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You and I are internet people in this regard.
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We do a lot of content and we used to do a lot of content.
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And there you go, huh?
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And if you have a partner now or vice versa,
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A partner who has nothing to do with it is okay.
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has his hobbies and so on, but you have to bring a bit of respect,
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That you, your example, you meant you were laughed at sometime
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And a little bit of shit, that's just not possible.
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You can't do that, and it's so demotivating, because at some point you won't even be able to do it.
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More so really dare to do what because you're afraid of being sniffed.
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Since I had my ex-partner for me, very early on, I made music and
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I was with a toxic ex-girlfriend.
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I made a YouTube channel.
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It exists... Ohhhhhhhhhhhh
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It no longer exists, the YouTube channel.
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It hasn't been for X years. Not in ten years.
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And that was a relationship that was also very toxic,
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Apart from that.
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However, they tried to link these interests.
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And you can also be guided a bit in this regard.
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Oh, come on, I'll go with you.
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Just as far as music is concerned, you have to imagine
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I've been there a lot of times, I've been arguing, yeah, your music sucks, your voice's total.
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Oh, shit. And then I just said to her, as a counter-argument, well, you just find it
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Shit, okay, but tell me the whole thing, but how can you explain it to yourself that the
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All the ladies and all the comments, that they agree with me, that they like the music,
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My voice is good, how do you explain it? Did you mean these are all fake profiles? Yes,
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Of course, I also have 800 fake profiles on my rap channel, of course, definitely. So,
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So, what don't you mean?
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I found that a little uncomfortable.
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But good, that's also a super immature attitude.
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If I have a partner who makes music
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or God knows, has another creative vein,
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which she wants to live out on the Internet with such projects,
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Here I am at the start.
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Well, if it's now without the fans, that's something else.
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But with these common things... Well, yeah.
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Let's say you could watch,
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The films are a little more creative.
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except from a fixed tripod position.
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Same with content creators.
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There is normalcy in this area.
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Watch out, a colleague of mine once said,
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If your partner decides to do so,
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procure to go,
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So this wasn't really a thing, but for fun,
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Did he mean when he bought it?
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I'll tell you what it's like, so I'm the puff daddy,
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I make the contacts, take fat ashes with me.
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Yeah, well, it was okay, you thought about it,
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That was funny, wasn't it?
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On what I want to go beyond, I mean, we have now talked a lot about the subject of relationship,
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But this is also important, because communication in the relationship, that is the A and O without communication.
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You can love yourself, the hex can fit, everything can fit, it doesn't work.
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So my ex-relationship failed because, among other things, she was a avoider.
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And to finish the topic, communication is super important and I find that older people also have problems with it.
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Of course, but the younger ones, especially because of social media, it's easy.
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Write two or three sentences on WhatsApp.
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Yes, you don't have to deal with it.
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You don't have to talk on the phone or explain anything.
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What you want, then call the doctor, there are already these days,
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What do you mean, these digital doctors, do you know where to put your problems?
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and then you need a sick leave and those online doctors and stuff.
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So, honestly, if you're having trouble somehow telling your doctor all these ailments,
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That's what I did when I was a psychologist.
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I wrote a book, even by hand.
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I could also write and print on the PC.
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Take this with you and say, 'Ey, I've written it all down.'
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So I got this sometimes, I got this brain fog,
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that head fog sometimes when it comes to serious things,
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then I chatter myself a bit like that
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I don't even know what I want to go back to now.
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Especially with doctors, right?
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For example, as an example, I have thyroid problems,
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For example, problems with hormones
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Problems with the gut.
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And I can also list this with friends, because these are problems that concern me.
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But when I'm at the doctor's, I think to myself, yes, with what do I have another problem?
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Oh, I have a scratch in my throat, I think I need, I don't know, a few boboxy coughs and I don't know what else I wanted to say.
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Then write you a note, if you forget that, such a good one.
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But at least be so creative and do it.
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Or, as I said, in a relationship, for example, just make a meeting once a week.
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What did I find good, what did I find bad?
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So work a little bit to make communication better.
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I think it even came from my ex-partner, from her family the saying, only people who talk can be helped.
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So, you know, you can only help those who open their mouths.
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For her, this quote was less good now because she was a avoider, but for me in a relationship in the long run, that would be nothing.
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So, shut yourself up, you can't somehow express the feelings directly, well, that's okay, many can't,
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But you have to communicate at some point. So you're more likely to have to open your mouth.
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In a relationship, in a friendship, because how do you want to find out,
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What the person likes. So, unfortunately, nothing can be done about telepathy or about the transmission of thoughts,
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Unfortunately, that's not possible either. It would be cool. I actually know people when they have one.
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Get a voice message and they take the transcript, pack now in the AI,
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Let me summarize this, then write me an answer to it, which should go in the direction and in the direction, the thing comes out, copy and send back.
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And I mean, this is then full of horny communication, especially imagine, they both do.
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And then you totally have the chatbots with each other and there is no communication.
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Yes, folks, you should really start talking about your feelings, what you want, what you don't want, because, as MTC just said, only talking people can be helped.
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Yes, that was the quote, right.
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Yes, I think they like to say that in the Ruhr area as well.
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Oh, it's awkward, I have goosebumps because it's so awkward. Really, there are people who do that.
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So I also had contact with a person who converted my audios in the form, i.e. in a transcript
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and then sent me an audio, which I just listened to normally and at some point it is meant,
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ah you, your audios, I don't listen to them at all, I just put them in there and let me just convert them into the text.
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I'm like, okay, but how do you want to figure out the emotion?
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Yeah, I don't need that.
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And I think so, oh yeah, good, then thank you for the conversation,
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That you were so honest, I'm horny.
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Yes, there are super strange people.
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So I think...
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Imagine you're going, take...
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You're doing 20 minutes of audio, aren't you?
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By default, yes.
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Put in all your feelings, your emotions, your thoughts,
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Yes, you go to that person, transcribe that,
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Put this in an AI, give me an answer,
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Put it in another program,
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The answer comes with a cloned voice.
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You send them to yourself.
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Dear heavens, fear of the future.
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(He laughs.)
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Yes, anything possible today.
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Like I said, I think it's all connected.
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communication, this ghosting, this,
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Oh, no, I don't want to deal with problems anymore.
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I let the problems of AIs somehow...
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AIs are horny, we both love AIs,
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But when it comes to communication,
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that you somehow, I don't know,
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Rewrite a video description or something.
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Okay, that just fits a bit from the tenant data and so on.
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Take SEO in general, for example.
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But in general, I don't know, I think it's a great pity.
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Like I said, especially when it comes to getting to know you.
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People are getting more and more introverted, which isn't bad now,
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People who don't want to talk anymore.
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How do we want to reproduce?
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Well, you know, there's nothing left.
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So, that reminds me like a very, very blatant Black Mirror episode of Netflix,
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Where you don't even communicate anymore and still apps or something, you know.
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Yeah, good morning.
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You know, that's when the person kisses, that's when you have to evaluate how the kiss was.
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Oh, that's fine.
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It's awful.
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Oh, no, that would be nothing to me.
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So, another question.
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First such a fun question now that I have come up with it.
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I wonder what you're saying about it.
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Relationships if you were single now and you'd meet a woman now.
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Sure, of course, common hobbies and how to stand with each other and whether you are a lover and so, yes, we all know that.
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These are demands, which you can also have, are important.
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If a person, so not that the question comes from me now, I've always seen TikTok the days,
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if the person now has a different political attitude than you, but now not to the extreme, but simply has a different opinion
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and this discussion in the relationship itself does not arise at all, except when there are elections,
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Would you say it's okay for you if the person now,
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So in your case, we're both on the left,
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If the person were right now, but not extreme and pejorative now,
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but would simply say, yes, no, I think the party is good or something,
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Would you say, no, I'm out of here, that's a no-go for me?
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Or would you say, well, as long as the person doesn't tell stupid things now
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or start with more discussion and argument, is that okay?
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Yeah, that's really hard these days, isn't it?
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Because it's definitely always going to extremes, you mean?
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The best example is that Sarah had played with someone yesterday and he was really
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Everyone in Germany is of the same opinion, and he was a
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Extreme supporter of the AfD. And as she said then, you're completely different with me and
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also my environment, then said this person, yes you also live in a bubble, this is not a
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It's a miracle. Wake up! Wake up! Yes, wake up and so on and look at the real life outside,
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How dangerous all this is. And this person didn't even understand that they were in the same position.
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such a bubble lives and keeps in there everything reinforces each other and all the same feeling
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They have the same attitudes, the same values. I think if someone is conservative
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is and is conservative right, yes, like, let's say, CDU and so, CSU. I could live with that,
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Yes, but as soon as this stops and then already direction so AfD and so on,
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I find it really difficult because I don't share these values at all.
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So for me personally, it depends, so I wouldn't make a difference,
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If this does not always end as a topic of discussion, just as it does now.
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I think where I'd be worst at discussions,
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I mean by politics, okay, I can sit down with the person,
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Three hours of discussion, okay?
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Religion, difficult if the person wants to enter into the discussion
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With an atheist, okay, you can do it too.
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I think where I'd be out would be if the person told me all the time,
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Oh, the poor animals, you're not vegan, like me,
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I'd be out there, so I'd say I'm leaving.
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Then I don't want to talk about it at all, then I don't want to discuss it at all.
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You can always make compromises like this and try this and that,
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But if this always ends in dispute,
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I don't know, I'd be out.
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So by the example of you, as I said, if the person is now so conservative,
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I would be full for that too.
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Personally, I think, and no matter what the subject,
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Try to understand the other side a bit.
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Don't say, no, I live in my bubble,
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I don't want to know anything about the world.
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Try to find out why people are like this.
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Whether this is an emotional attitude
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Or is it a rational attitude?
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So, you know what I mean?
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Now it comes from a... I don't know.
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My sister was beaten up by someone,
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who has now fled or something.
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Or is it really an attitude,
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Has it evolved like this over decades?
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Because wrong circles or something, huh?
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And try to reflect that a little bit too
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And to understand the other side, as I said.
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to conduct respectful communication on an equal footing,
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If it were about politics now.
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That would be my opinion on this now.
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Otherwise I wouldn't be against it now.
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The main thing is that there is no continual dispute,
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That you're going to get away from it.
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Yeah, let's just say so.
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That would be so... I mean, I got there, like I said,
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I watched a TikTok video in which this was discussed.
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Yeah, but good, that was surrendered.
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Yes, but I find this really difficult in places,
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When people vote against their own interests,
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Let's go back to the AfD example.
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The AfD's social policy is radical.
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and benefits are cut.
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And if you go there yourself and then you are a recipient of benefits,
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then elects a party that stops according to the party program and election program
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Same benefits as we would get now.
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It is only after 40 years of full employment.
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When I consider that on average I start working at 16 and some
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even much later, when it has come even further for school and study,
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then I'm over 60 when I'm 40 years old, so 39 and still what has to work out loud
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on the election program. Then I'm over 60, then I'm already on my pension.
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life. You're kind of almost ready to retire.
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Yeah, and when I think about it, people go and vote. I believe
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This has a lot to do with the fact that there is also such a deep dissatisfaction in society.
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And then such radical statements are very seductive,
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Because there are simple solutions for extremely complex relationships.
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Just now. I mean, I'm generally not a friend of discussing with people,
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Firstly, they are radical and B, that is, they are extreme and radical.
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And B, they don't stop at all, so you know, turn in or something.
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Yes, there are just people you can't discuss with.
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Or communicate wisely. You can't do that.
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So in this regard, I'll tell you how it is,
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I try to avoid such conversations.
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So, unfortunately, it is the case that a lot of people who vote for the AfD,
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that they themselves somehow receive benefits
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I'm not sure what you actually chose.
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Yeah, that's just a small example.
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They have a lot of ideas under a lot of things.
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Yes, but for a lot of things, that's a total conflict of interest with what I choose and what the party stands for.
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And then imagine that you have to have a relationship with a person or you have to have a relationship with a person who gets upset every time a plane from Afghanistan arrives here,
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because the people during the time when the German Bundeswehr was in Afghanistan,
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They worked for them and are now being slaughtered in the back.
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The people were promised, we'll get you out of there, you can live in Germany.
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Yes, and then there was someone who was upset about something,
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What has been promised, what is human, how can we say what is human?
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I don't know, I would really have a big problem with a partner who then
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values are represented. You have to imagine making the Roman greeting almost here in the morning and
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Afternoon of doner eating at the Turk around the corner.
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I know what you want out of it, yes.
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Oh, we are in Germany and in Europe in general, we are so multi-cultural.
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There I have discussed with a person recently who is also super, I wouldn't say legally,
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He has already driven very hard.
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Then came the question, so the person meant to me,
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Wait, you don't mean to tell me seriously,
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You'd do something with a...
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I need to find the right term that's fair.
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You don't want to tell me,
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You would date a dark-skinned person or an Asian person.
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I mean, but, in fact, I think,
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that there are very, very pretty dark-skinned women
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And also beautiful Asian women.
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For me personally, the country of origin is completely latte,
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If that's a loving woman.
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You can communicate, at least in English I don't care,
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there are everywhere and why should I just have my own, you know, so
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European or what do I know, German now dates, why? I have no problem with it now.
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And then it was like, oh you're just telling jokes and so on, you know, you're so complete
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Funny, look at how much inconsistencies there are in Germany,
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You can't be serious about that, and there are some super ugly people out there.
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where you kind of think, so he lives behind the moon with his …
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You have to justify yourself in 2025.
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If you say yes, I would also date a woman as a guy,
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the white not … or now, for example, another example,
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Now with homosexuals or something.
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"No, I don't like it" and so on.
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And so where you think, huh?
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Well, there are kind of weird people.
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I'm honest with you, I'm glad that my environment
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not so made up of these people,
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who are open to sexuality, who are open to love, and what do I know?
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They are open to cultures and so on. I try to get older over the years,
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I will refrain from such people who are very stuck there.
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Let's put it this way to make up for it now.
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Yes, I can understand that.
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Because you saw at that time on this whole corona issue,
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How difficult it all was. On Facebook at the time,
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That's why I left Facebook for a few years.
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'Cause it all got too busy for me, all the discussions.
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And I don't know, on Twitter, there was just so much stuff packed into your feed.
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And sometimes you want to spend an hour there and read funny things and so on.
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This is super exhausting for me personally.
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Yes, just as exhausting as a person who can't communicate at all.
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Because, as I said, this is also super important in this aspect.
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Yeah, we actually had a nice conversation.
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We can talk about it for hours on end, on the subject of communication.
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Everyone is so...
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You have a package to carry today.
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- Exactly, and also each his experiences.
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And above all, now not only in romantic relationships,
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but also maintain relationships at different levels,
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friendly, acquaintances, family.
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These are all relationships.
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And communication is definitely totally conducive.
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When I think about it, some ex-girlfriends
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I have a friendly relationship. With some, I've found myself on the
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encountered the street and then can say "good day" and also "reunion" or even maybe
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A short word. And that person doesn't really matter. You know what I mean? So
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You have a common past, but it no longer affects you. And with others is
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You've really been hurt so much that you don't have any more bucks on it. But I have to say,
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It's really much nicer when you have a friendly relationship, a friendly relationship.
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has a base. For example, as for Martina, I know exactly, I could then at four o'clock at night
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standing at the door, she would ask me if I don't have slats on the hem, but the
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She would open the door and listen to me if I had anything to say.
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And this person had a certain position once, he had been important.
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And that's how I find the ideal path.
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Of course, then the thing comes where you can meet
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There is no more bad blood.
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You have a time together, that didn't fit anymore,
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No longer fit, then there is a "no matter". There are no emotions anymore.
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No hatred, no love, no injury. This is the next best form.
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And worst of all, I really think that's when there's still so much brass that you just
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Ten or twenty years later, I don't know how to get through it. And this
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If you have friends, you have friends, you have friends in your family.
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I mean, no one can hurt you as much as a relationship person or a family member.
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Yes, yes, I agree with you. I don't know, I'm very, very, very grateful to myself, to my environment, to my mother, to my mother's upbringing, to be able to look people in the eye,
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Please say thank you to say that I can talk openly about my feelings.
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Well, I'm honest with you, I also had my childhood construction sites because of bullying and so on.
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Yes, yes.
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But I noticed with time, also through YouTube, for example, YouTube the best example,
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How crazy you can be when you're ready.
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I mean, there are people who have a limited horizon both mentally and psychologically as far as the world is concerned.
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And society, they don't get involved in new things at all.
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I'm always open to new things because I want to know what's going on in the world.
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And what could possibly enrich me, where I could adapt, where this brings me benefits and so on.
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And that's why I say I'm grateful to my mother's upbringing that it's always been important to approach people.
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to go. You know, you've got a bus now that's leaving at 2:30 p.m. or
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you are at the checkout and there you have very little and then you miss
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The bus, because you just can't open your mouth. You can still say it's driving.
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If it was a bus, I might be able to do it. And then you have either
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Someone who says no or yes. And in most cases, they just say clearly, go ahead,
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logically. But you know, if you don't say anything, you've missed the bus.
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You were unlucky.
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Yeah, that's right. Now just as a normal example.
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But I don't know.
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As I said, in relationships I noticed the most,
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'Cause I'm still very much a burnt child
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of my ex-relationship.
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I hope people,
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Even though young people are listening to the podcast,
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Try to follow channels, too.
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Because you're such an internet person, I am.
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Try to follow channels like this on YouTube and on TikTok and so on
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People who do a little bit of this training.
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social issues, social training,
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where you approach people and so on and so forth.
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And try to look at it a little bit.
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Yes, but stay away from relationship coaches.
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Yeah, that's the worst thing there is, relationship coaches.
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So, I don't know.
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There are both extremes that hang in their bubbles.
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So women who say a guy who's under 91,
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It's completely bad and you haven't seen it.
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Just like the guys who say,
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Yes, a woman wants this and that and that.
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and you have to do that and you have to do that and you have to drive the car, then you just have to drive the woman
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Annoy them and they will say yes. Especially when it's always a name,
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Yes, BlaBla relationship coach, you know that's such an ass or I don't know, such an idiot stops.
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So look at what you're consuming, sure, but try a little bit like that,
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So just try to get out of yourself.
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Just look at how it goes.
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We live in a very modern age and I am also very grateful that the Internet
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It exists and AIs and so on and so forth.
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But there is nothing like a normal, reasonable conversation at eye level, where
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You don't have to pull anything out of people's noses.
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It feels beautiful.
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Yeah, it doesn't matter if that's on a friendly basis now, in relationship …, or if you're a
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Meet people on the street. You wait on the bus and there's a grandma and you change a few
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nice words with grandma and that's just a satisfying conversation and if that's just
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It was over the weather. Spend some time and it's good. Yes, I'm very happy about it,
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I've talked to you over and over again on the podcast. There are so many issues,
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which always end up with us in the chat,
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Where you think, boah, a few bullet points would be cool now.
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Yes, yes.
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Well, let's have a look.
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I don't always have to say what we always say.
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We need to keep pushing for more content.
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This has been our thing for years now.
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It makes me all the more happy when we really do something.
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And the more I am satisfied with such a conversation,
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Also because it is very...
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Yes, we are very often in agreement, so mostly.
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And even if such a situation comes as before
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with the claims and so on, where you can very briefly
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bring in a different perspective,
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But we are still roughly in agreement.
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Yes, but it is also a discourse on an equal footing.
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That's right, that's right.
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And it doesn't matter if the one is ten, twelve, 13 years older or younger.
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So, that's exactly what I want to give back to people.
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Always try to put the other person in.
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Just try to have a normal conversation.
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Say things you would like to hear yourself.
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So, don't be disrespectful or somehow, don't know,
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incapable of criticism and hostile to death towards persons.
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At the end of the day, we are all our people.
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who all have our construction sites, our quirks, emotional ...
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I don't know, lows and so on.
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Sometimes I would communicate.
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In a relationship with fidelity, place 1st.
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So, I'll tell you what it's like.
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Yes, it was a very nice conversation indeed.
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That's how some things were discussed again.
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Oh, yeah. And then I'd say thank you for the nice conversation and say until next time.
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Until next time. Bye bye.
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Bye bye.
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In this episode of Limit value Sascha and his guest talk about why real communication is disappearing more and more.
From small talk in the supermarket to ghosting on Tinder: What does it mean if the young generation prefers to block rather than speak?
We discuss the role of coronavirus, the consequences of social media and dating platforms – and ask ourselves: What does this have to do with education, empathy and relationship culture?
An exciting look at Generation Z, Alpha and everything in between.
📝 thematic breakdown
1. Intro & Welcome
Introduction to the topic, presentation of the interlocutors and brief classification.
2. Generations in comparison
- Differences between Generation X, Y and Z
- ‘Xennials“ as an intermediate generation
- Digital Youth vs. Analog Childhood
3. Social media & Internet culture
- TikTok, YouTube and WhatsApp as formative platforms
- Ghosting, blocking and superficiality
- Trolls, anonymity and disrespect
4. Ex-partner & after-effects
- Loyalty vs. complete discontinuation of contact
- Personal experiences with separations
- Friendship after a relationship – is that possible?
5. Ghosting & conflict prevention
- Why problems are often no longer addressed
- Ghosting as a ‘simple solution’
- Conflict as a lost competency
6. Corona effect
- Isolation in Youth
- Missed opportunities for small talk and everyday communication
- Streaming boom, homeschooling and digital replacement worlds
7. Education & Empathy
- Value transfer earlier vs. today
- Gratitude, courtesy, respect
- Examples from everyday life (supermarket, doctor's office, public space)
8. Small talk in everyday life
- Why Small Talk is Important
- Positive and negative examples
- Communication as a Social Skill
9. Work & Reality
- Conflicts in the workplace vs. online blocking
- Why you can't hide awkward people in real life
10. Generational comparison
- What older people can learn from younger people (technique, speed)
- What Younger People Can Learn from Older People (Empathy, Everyday Communication)
11. Dating & Relationships
- Superficiality of Tinder & Co.
- Mindgames and Rar-Maching as Unhealthy Dynamics
- Requirements for partners then and now
- Loyalty, Loyalty and Relationship Culture
12. Final round & Conclusion
- Summary of the main points
- Communication as a key to relationships and society
Links to the issue:
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Gen-Z-Stare: Why Gen Z is staring at you - 20 minutes
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How the Generation of Xennials Is
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Generation X, Y & Z: Employees in fact check
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Playing time: 2:04:38
Date of admission: 11.09.25
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