Desire to have children

Let's be honest, it is not the task and purpose of life to multiply its genes and to put children into the world.

I know it's not so simple to say that many thoughts belong to putting children into the world, even if others are less superior and simply do that and are not very clear about their actions, what they actually do when they put children into the world without having thought about it.

I think you have to be clear or, better said, you have to be aware that with the actions of sex or, better said, sexual intercourse, which can certainly be a lot of fun, there is also the risk of triggering some pregnancies.

Now it is the case, I am over 40 and had several relationships with two of these relationships so true that I would have said, yes, I can imagine seeing children in between in the relationship or even before there were always moments when I realized that it does not fit here and there and that the relationship is also not stable enough to raise children or even later in a possible separation to do this together and not like others, that arguments do him more bad than right.

If you ask me now, I would say clearly I would have liked to have had children but now it is no longer, because the desire for it because I am just so sick for it and what would I be for a father who is more or less in a wheelchair and can not take great care of his child and when I see how my 2-year-old nephew does these great things with his dad, then I see that it is important to be healthy and to be there for his children.

Because just as my dad was the ultimate hero for me, so I see that for my nephew his dad is the ultimate hero and that's wonderful and just beautiful and I have to admit that I'm a bit jealous in places that I can't make this experience.

I raised my other nephew for a time as a kind of foster father and had always had a very strong and intimate relationship with my nephews almost fatherly before that I saw and realized that I really liked the father's job and would certainly have stood very well.

As I said at the beginning, childbearing also involves thinking about how to get it all settled and whether it all works, if it doesn't work the way it should work, if I replace these considerations, I see that it's better that I don't have children, even if I miss this painfully, this experience.

I am always very happy when I hear my circle of acquaintances or in the familiar environment and see how someone who has absolutely desired a child can finally fulfill this wish, even if this is no longer possible for me from the above considerations.

How do you see it or have you thought about it?

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