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The Digression 79 Between Glasses, Blood Sugar and Home Servers

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0:00:31 – 0:00:40 Hello and welcome to a new episode of digression. Where I never, almost never,
0:00:40 – 0:00:48 deviate from the real issue. Uiuiui, that's been a few days now,
0:00:48 – 0:00:54 I've made a digression and a lot has happened since then.
0:00:54 – 0:01:10 I have now wandered under the group of spectacle wearers, arrived. I've had the last few months
0:01:10 – 0:01:25 I realized that my eyes were getting worse. Especially when I have such a bad
0:01:25 – 0:01:33 There was a contrast ratio. Let's say black writing on a red background. Da
0:01:33 – 0:01:37 I had a hard time reading when it was small. I mean,
0:01:37 – 0:01:48 This is not easy to read from the outset. But on the whole, yes, I have that.
0:01:48 – 0:01:59 Yes, still can. So, make an appointment with the ophthalmologist. I mean, oh God, almost half a year on a
0:01:59 – 0:02:05 Waiting for an appointment. I mean, it must also be conveniently located. Yes, then I was
0:02:05 – 0:02:15 He said, "At 40, it's normal for your eyes to get worse."
0:02:15 – 0:02:24 Yeah, I knew that, boy, there's glasses. But I was recommended,
0:02:24 – 0:02:29 Take two glasses. One for long-distance vision and one as workplace glasses
0:02:29 – 0:02:36 and not a progressive lens. And I have to say, that was a good decision, because this
0:02:36 – 0:02:42 I can wear glasses all day because I have a cell phone in my hand.
0:02:42 – 0:02:47 I have a tablet in my hand, I'm sitting in front of the laptop, I'm sitting on a big PC and always
0:02:47 – 0:02:53 Things are relatively close. And I have the one for reading in the lower area and the one for reading in the upper area
0:02:53 – 0:03:01 Think of it as a screen workstation, let's say up to 1.50 meters. And these are
0:03:01 – 0:03:08 Keep the distances where I have most of the stuff around me. Yes, long speech,
0:03:08 – 0:03:16 short sense. After the ophthalmologist appointment to the optician, then all this was measured again,
0:03:16 – 0:03:26 Yes, you know. And then it was about the choice of the glasses, the frame and holy, holy, holy,
0:03:26 – 0:03:35 f... Is it possible to spend money on it? Is it possible to spend money on it? The problem is only,
0:03:35 – 0:03:44 If you don't have money, it becomes really spartan. Well, long speech, short meaning,
0:03:44 – 0:03:52 I now have two glasses and I can see again and I am amazed how clear and clear
0:03:52 – 0:04:00 the scripture is and I'm actually happy that I see everything really better now
0:04:00 – 0:04:09 Without having to go there, I can turn on a lot of light, get things close to me. Yes,
0:04:09 – 0:04:13 But I also have to say that I also had another reason why I went to the ophthalmologist.
0:04:13 – 0:04:25 I left. And this is inspired by my dibetologist and of course our,
0:04:25 – 0:04:38 What is the name of the drama queen in person? Oh yeah, Frank, I've got eye syringes,
0:04:38 – 0:04:48 Wattermann. I have no idea how to get this idea in my eye.
0:04:48 – 0:04:57 And that's not possible. At the thought of it, I don't just get goosebumps, that's all
0:04:57 – 0:05:04 It's awful. And then I had my eye pressure examined and so on and so forth.
0:05:04 – 0:05:09 And thank God, the doctor told me, so everything was fine.
0:05:09 – 0:05:14 He also looked at the back of his eyes and everything was fine.
0:05:14 – 0:05:20 And thank God, I mean, I've been paying close attention to my blood sugar all along.
0:05:20 – 0:05:24 I'm super set.
0:05:24 – 0:05:31 I have a better value than some people who are not diabetic.
0:05:31 – 0:05:39 And the long-term sugar level is great. And I'm so glad that I'm really so
0:05:39 – 0:05:47 I am disciplined. Of course I eat chocolate, but then the main meals are
0:05:47 – 0:05:53 Stop switched. Of course I also eat chips, but then something else will happen.
0:05:53 – 0:06:03 switched for it. I come from nursing. I've learned nursing care and there you know
0:06:03 – 0:06:09 It's a little bit better how to determine all the values. And I mean, that belonged to me too
0:06:09 – 0:06:16 to the day-to-day business. And I've always been careful, I've always figured it out.
0:06:16 – 0:06:24 And thank goodness you don't have the same time as my grandma, who
0:06:24 – 0:06:31 She was a garden-slim woman, but also had type 2 diabetes. She always had to do just about everything.
0:06:31 – 0:06:39 weighing and so on. And nowadays you have such good tools thanks to the AI age, where you
0:06:39 – 0:06:46 only have to take a photo of it and then a specially trained AI can calculate the
0:06:46 – 0:06:53 How many carbohydrates are there and then you can stop splashing.
0:06:53 – 0:07:03 And of course there are products, special hormones, that help you.
0:07:03 – 0:07:10 They're known as a slimming syringe, of course, and I have to say since I got there on Monjaro.
0:07:10 – 0:07:15 I'm set up and I mean I'm really getting a small dose, so that's got nothing
0:07:15 – 0:07:21 To do with the slimming syringe. So it is much higher dosed. Much higher.
0:07:21 – 0:07:33 I really have a lot less problems and my blood sugar is evenly constant. Yes,
0:07:33 – 0:07:39 I hope that this will continue to be the case and that I will not suffer any long-term damage. Of course
0:07:39 – 0:07:48 I already have problems with nerve insensitivity, i.e. polyneuropathies.
0:07:48 – 0:07:55 But this is all still so minimal and when I'm at the diabetologist and all this
0:07:55 – 0:08:01 They also say it's amazing that they've had diabetes for ten years.
0:08:01 – 0:08:05 They have so little damage.
0:08:05 – 0:08:10 But that's really the case because I've been paying attention to it since day one.
0:08:10 – 0:08:17 And yes, it's always such a struggle.
0:08:17 – 0:08:23 And I have to say, after my stroke, I don't know, I've told you before,
0:08:23 – 0:08:29 I fell into depression and ate really hard.
0:08:29 – 0:08:34 And I'm now in it, continuously holding that weight, which I'm attacking
0:08:34 – 0:08:41 I've been eating to reduce it again. And that's a long, long, hard road.
0:08:41 – 0:08:47 But I don't want to push the tear nozzle like that, but it's really like that,
0:08:47 – 0:08:56 that if you can move and increase the movement and change the diet,
0:08:56 – 0:09:02 There is a lot that can be done, even with diabetes. The problem is just,
0:09:02 – 0:09:10 I haven't been able to move like that since the stroke. So I have to stop over the
0:09:10 – 0:09:24 Serving size and keep on changing what I eat. Here we come to the next problem. Since
0:09:24 – 0:09:29 Since 2019, the food has been around 37.% become more expensive.
0:09:29 – 0:09:37 Especially the things that have few calories, so carbohydrates above all, and
0:09:37 – 0:09:38 are still healthy.
0:09:38 – 0:09:44 I could also eat chalk and hay or roofing board on Sunday if the bitumen
0:09:44 – 0:09:46 It wouldn't be so toxic.
0:09:46 – 0:09:53 Then that would be cheaper in the long run than salads, vegetables and so on.
0:09:53 – 0:09:58 And you want to have a little quality of life somewhere.
0:09:58 – 0:10:03 So food now not as a necessity, but also as something sensual.
0:10:03 – 0:10:10 Because food is already a sensual experience, otherwise you could save yourself all the spices.
0:10:10 – 0:10:21 because then everything could taste like wallpaper paste. Fun Fact, wallpaper paste is calorie-technical
0:10:21 – 0:10:28 Seen fantastically. So in terms of taste, it's terrible, but calorie-wise,
0:10:28 – 0:10:32 Because there are no carbohydrates in it. But a few other things and a lot of fiber.
0:10:32 – 0:10:41 Yeah, if you could dig that in and of course you'd be fed up. It is easy to
0:10:41 – 0:10:47 Consume, but taste and aesthetically rather disgusting.
0:10:47 – 0:10:59 Yeah, and here we are. You also need a little quality of life and when you stop
0:10:59 – 0:11:06 Noodles and ketchup make you full, of course. But in terms of carbohydrates, of course, this is a
0:11:06 – 0:11:12 Catastrophe, because in ketchup is a lot of sugar and in pasta many carbohydrates in the form of
0:11:12 – 0:11:25 long-chain sugar molecules. I'm just glad I got this far.
0:11:25 – 0:11:38 And I'm also keen to experiment. The inclined listener knows that I have been
0:11:38 – 0:11:52 I also deal with AI and above all with the emerging OpenCloer. Makes it special
0:11:52 – 0:11:57 Especially for fun, because it's a
0:11:57 – 0:11:59 simple environment, you keep tying the
0:11:59 – 0:12:03 Preferred Artificial Intelligence
0:12:03 – 0:12:04 They have the lowest level of trust and can
0:12:04 – 0:12:08 Then do things and
0:12:08 – 0:12:13 to automate. And I have to say, I
0:12:13 – 0:12:16 I have what the daily structure is like.
0:12:13 – 0:12:24 You can do a lot with optimisation. And you identify the problem, you name it
0:12:24 – 0:12:33 Problem and this artificial assistant is able to independently stop automation
0:12:33 – 0:12:39 create. Write small scripts, small programs that run automatically
0:12:39 – 0:12:46 They do things at certain times and then they do things. And yes, you can stop
0:12:46 – 0:12:55 Start an internet search. You can tell, here's a recipe of the day for me and
0:12:55 – 0:13:00 the conditions that are met. And then the internet search is started and the
0:13:00 – 0:13:08 Thing pulls this out for itself. And somehow you get a new recipe every day with
0:13:08 – 0:13:14 Shopping list, what you need and so on. Or you can just say what you have and it will be done.
0:13:14 – 0:13:22 And you could go much further, if you create a database, where you keep this,
0:13:22 – 0:13:29 What you've got is packed in. Then you can also pull the data from it and then look,
0:13:29 – 0:13:36 what you could cook from it for delicious dishes. Or with the same conditions different
0:13:36 – 0:13:42 Make variation. It's all about it, and I use it the same way. I have one
0:13:42 – 0:13:47 Experts for my daily routine with nutrition. I have an expert who
0:13:47 – 0:13:52 My website is waiting for me. I have an expert here and an expert there and that
0:13:52 – 0:14:00 It's just fun. You can do a lot of time and a lot of nonsense with me.
0:14:00 – 0:14:08 I'm always amazed at what our time for tools is producing.
0:14:08 – 0:14:15 I'm just talking my phone in, the messenger is connected to this system
0:14:15 – 0:14:18 And then this task is done.
0:14:18 – 0:14:28 One side is that AI costs money, but there are also opportunities for
0:14:28 – 0:14:34 I don't know what complicated
0:14:34 – 0:14:37 things, there are also free
0:14:37 – 0:14:39 free models and then you can
0:14:39 – 0:14:42 Do it if you don't know who
0:14:42 – 0:14:44 I know what a complex super
0:14:44 – 0:14:46 They want to have expensive things done.
0:14:46 – 0:14:47 But little things can be
0:14:47 – 0:14:50 Make it free. That's how the operation is
0:14:50 – 0:14:55 Not so expensive because I have one.
0:14:55 – 0:14:58 There are a few servers here and there.
0:14:55 – 0:15:02 They walk on it and do their stuff. They're on 24 hours, they're on the internet 24 hours,
0:15:02 – 0:15:11 As long as the internet works, that's it. Here we are on the next issue. Since some
0:15:11 – 0:15:19 For weeks I have some sort of constant internet disruptions at fixed times. Let's say this at 8:00 a.m.
0:15:19 – 0:15:24 to quarter after eight, somehow at twelve o'clock, to quarter after twelve.
0:15:24 – 0:15:30 I actually have to write to my provider and ask, hello, is there anything?
0:15:30 – 0:15:39 Or do you only want me as I did then from the, what had it been, from the second
0:15:39 – 0:15:45 Change Generation DSL to VDSL and you've made the Internet worse and slower?
0:15:45 – 0:15:50 Will you tell me to switch to fiber optic, but the fiber optic connection is still there?
0:15:50 – 0:15:54 I'm not in the street at all, but still interparallel in the neighboring street?
0:15:54 – 0:15:59 Questions about questions.
0:15:59 – 0:16:05 But that annoys, if you know exactly, at certain times, zack, Internet away.
0:16:05 – 0:16:14 So old mobile phone taken, also with 4G, USB cable on it, zack, at the Fritzbox and that stops as
0:16:14 – 0:16:21 Failure protection set up. Let's say it works in four out of five cases.
0:16:21 – 0:16:27 Four out of six cases it works. Otherwise, you have to remove the mobile phone once, once briefly
0:16:27 – 0:16:33 Get back on it. Sometimes the phone loses the setting that it stops Internet via USB
0:16:33 – 0:16:42 should be free. But otherwise you can stop these few minutes where the resync takes place
0:16:42 – 0:16:48 From the DSL just bridge this. But these are also things that are annoying. I mean,
0:16:48 – 0:16:57 In addition to real life, I also live on the Internet and have my presence and live there.
0:16:57 – 0:17:03 I know that I can get information out of it. If the internet isn't there,
0:17:03 – 0:17:10 I mean, who sets up their own search engine at home? And yes,
0:17:10 – 0:17:13 Yes, right, the Sascha, who has his own search engine at home.
0:17:13 – 0:17:16 I also have my own DNS server at home.
0:17:16 – 0:17:21 Why? 'Cause I'm the whole fucking club,
0:17:21 – 0:17:23 I don't trust all Americans anymore.
0:17:23 – 0:17:27 They already have too much data from me.
0:17:27 – 0:17:30 I have my own search engine
0:17:30 – 0:17:34 It is extremely data protection friendly.
0:17:34 – 0:17:37 It gives very little private data.
0:17:38 – 0:17:41 And the great thing is, it's a meta search engine.
0:17:41 – 0:17:43 It's not just Google or anything like that.
0:17:43 – 0:17:47 Instead, it uses several providers that I can configure.
0:17:47 – 0:17:49 And when I ask a question,
0:17:49 – 0:17:53 then several providers are contacted and the result comes in.
0:17:53 – 0:17:55 And then of course I have a cache
0:17:55 – 0:17:58 And then it will be written in there if it is searched for again.
0:17:58 – 0:18:03 My digital assistants almost only use this search engine
0:18:03 – 0:18:06 through a programmable interface.
0:18:06 – 0:18:10 And the cache is now a few hundred megabytes,
0:18:10 – 0:18:13 Because, of course, they always access the same resources.
0:18:13 – 0:18:18 So they look for something, then get the answer from the search engine, where it is,
0:18:18 – 0:18:21 Then you can follow the link.
0:18:21 – 0:18:23 Yes, and I do that myself.
0:18:23 – 0:18:27 I don't use Google anymore.
0:18:27 – 0:18:32 Yeah, well, that's just these little crazies.
0:18:32 – 0:18:36 But you always need the internet for that.
0:18:36 – 0:18:38 Why do I have my own DNS server?
0:18:38 – 0:18:43 Because I can set exactly what I'm passing through to the outside world of data
0:18:43 – 0:18:46 I filter out all the advertising.
0:18:46 – 0:18:49 Of course, you still have to have a failure protection,
0:18:49 – 0:18:53 because normally you have always entered two DNS servers,
0:18:53 – 0:18:55 primary and secondary.
0:18:55 – 0:18:59 I have that too and it runs from two separate machines in case one fails.
0:18:59 – 0:19:02 Maybe there's an update going wrong.
0:19:02 – 0:19:04 Or maybe there is a technical problem.
0:19:05 – 0:19:17 And when the DNS server is gone, you almost have Internet, but your devices don't know where the things are, because they can't trigger the search via the DNS.
0:19:17 – 0:19:28 Because computers talk about IP addresses and not just about www.youtube.de.
0:19:28 – 0:19:31 They don't know where www.youtube.de is.
0:19:31 – 0:19:37 They know where 192.blablabla is.
0:19:37 – 0:19:39 They know that.
0:19:39 – 0:19:44 So there's a DNS server that says,
0:19:44 – 0:19:49 www.youtube.de is the IP address.
0:19:49 – 0:19:51 And I have that at home, too.
0:19:51 – 0:19:55 And if you configure it reasonably, with a little cash and all that,
0:19:55 – 0:20:05 Then the search for www.youtube.de is much faster than if you use the DNS server every time
0:20:05 – 0:20:10 used by your internet service provider or others.
0:20:10 – 0:20:14 And even then, I don't use mine from the Internet provider or Google, here
0:20:14 – 0:20:23 8.8.8, but stop another, which is already more data protection compliant from the beginning and
0:20:23 – 0:20:30 even then a second one lasts, which is also compliant with data protection,
0:20:30 – 0:20:38 but as protection against failure. Well, you can see, you can just go into the depths with such things
0:20:38 – 0:20:47 Thanks to my glasses, I now have a clearer view. And none
0:20:47 – 0:20:54 Eye syringes. Thank goodness. I hope Frank, I'm a lot more distracted from you today
0:20:54 – 0:21:00 It was pretty nerdy when I think about it. But your last podcasts
0:21:00 – 0:21:08 They were also very nerdy. So, what's left to tell me besides, everyone has their own
0:21:08 – 0:21:15 Search engine. Everyone has their own NAS. You don't need your data on Google or anything like that.
0:21:15 – 0:21:22 save. Do it at home. It's worth it. You will be surprised by the speed.
0:21:22 – 0:21:30 So in that sense, thank you for listening and goodbye until next time. Your Sasha.
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In this episode, the divergence A seemingly simple topic quickly becomes much more: It is about new glasses, everyday life with diabetes, conscious nutrition, technical aids, AI in everyday life and the question of how much digital independence is actually possible. Between ophthalmologist, blood sugar, home servers, your own search engine, DNS servers and annoying Internet disturbances, a very personal, honest and pleasantly nerdy episode about health, self-organization and technology in real life emerges.

Breakdown of topics

1. Arrive as a result
A personal introduction and the start of a new digression.

2. New glasses, new look
Why glasses were needed at all, how the appointment with the ophthalmologist went and why two glasses were the better solution in the end.

3. Relief after the doctor's visit
Worry about possible problems with the eyes, the examination and the relief that everything is fine.

4. Diabetes in Everyday Life
How discipline, experience and conscious handling of nutrition help to keep the values stable and to avoid long-term damage as much as possible.

5. Eating between reason and quality of life
Why healthy eating is not only a matter of discipline, but also depends on prices, everyday life, enjoyment and real possibilities.

6. AI as a practical everyday helper
How artificial intelligence can concretely support structure, recipe ideas, small automations and digital processes.

7. Digital assistants and self-organization
Why technical systems in everyday life are not just gimmicks, but can create real relief.

8. Trouble with the Internet
Recurring connection problems, fixed downtime and pragmatic solutions with failover protection.

9. Own search engine, own DNS server
Why data protection, control and speed speak in favour of building your own digital infrastructure.

10. Love of technology with attitude
A look at why self-hosting, data protection and digital independence are more than just nerd stuff today.

11. Conclusion of the episode
An episode about health, everyday life, technology and trying to make life a little better with the right tools.

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The Digression 44 Dick(e) Thoughts

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0:00:15 – 0:00:19 Hello and welcome to a new edition of the digression.
0:00:19 – 0:00:26 I am Sascha Markmann and every now and then I deviate from the actual topic.
0:00:26 – 0:00:39 Today's topic is heavy, because my fiancé has been in a Facebook group
0:00:39 – 0:00:41 Meet someone.
0:00:41 – 0:00:49 In the group, it's about mental health problems and he wanted to exchange ideas with her.
0:00:49 – 0:00:54 We are my fiancée and I, not a child of sadness.
0:00:54 – 0:01:06 We ourselves are fat, obese, overweight, depending on what you want to call it, maybe even fat.
0:01:06 – 0:01:13 And then you said, okay, then, yeah, we can have a chat.
0:01:14 – 0:01:23 Now you have to say, I once weighed 250 kilos and lost 70 kilos.
0:01:23 – 0:01:29 This is a whole person and I still weigh a lot.
0:01:29 – 0:01:37 It's not even that easy to get that weight down, because I have to eat and eat.
0:01:37 – 0:01:42 If I don't eat, I risk physical harm.
0:01:42 – 0:01:47 I know people who have had gastric surgery and they haven't eaten for a while.
0:01:47 – 0:01:52 And then they actually got something like nierfen failure or something.
0:01:52 – 0:01:59 The history of gastric surgery, I think this is also a good topic for a
0:01:59 – 0:02:07 Digression, because I started there and yes, there are a lot of hurdles,
0:02:07 – 0:02:08 Which you have to stop.
0:02:08 – 0:02:13 I don't understand why other people get this surgery without any problems.
0:02:13 – 0:02:16 With me, it's not so easy.
0:02:16 – 0:02:23 But I think I'll do that in another issue, discuss what's going on.
0:02:23 – 0:02:29 But let's get back to the real issue.
0:02:29 – 0:02:36 Subject. This man now writes with my fiancé friend, better half,
0:02:36 – 0:02:46 a few days ago and I just thought, okay, yeah, he's got a little bit of his everyday life
0:02:46 – 0:02:54 She told me that, too, and one day it always came to me.
0:02:54 – 0:03:01 More about food in focus. Then he took pictures of what he ate. And these are
0:03:01 – 0:03:09 Incredible amounts and, of course, all high, high calories. I don't want to judge it,
0:03:09 – 0:03:19 But what I find so strange is this extreme fixation on food. Because now this is really
0:03:19 – 0:03:27 in every message, nice food, then he had been with neighbors and the man is so helpless,
0:03:27 – 0:03:35 That he'll get the food. He says he always fed and that makes me so
0:03:35 – 0:03:45 stunned, because that's like someone running in a knife laughing with joy, screaming
0:03:45 – 0:03:53 It's so broken. So the man is really completely in need of care and I am myself
0:03:53 – 0:04:04 They also need care and know what it is like, but to be so broken physically,
0:04:04 – 0:04:10 unable to move. I mean, I've got it all by myself
0:04:10 – 0:04:18 My stroke. I also had to relearn everything. swallowing, talking, sitting, running,
0:04:18 – 0:04:32 how I stop the fine motor skills again on the affected side and and and. And this
0:04:32 – 0:04:39 People only talk about food. So even I saw once in the news that came the last days,
0:04:39 – 0:04:47 In the evening, there came a photo of a piece of cake, which was as big as what my girlfriend and
0:04:47 – 0:04:56 I eat together and those who know me know that I can eat well if I want to. Then it was called
0:04:56 – 0:05:03 it, maybe 20 minutes later, that he still has a bar of chocolate on his bed, he will now
0:05:03 – 0:05:13 also eat and so about an hour later he still has six Berliners with chocolate cream filling
0:05:13 – 0:05:26 Pushed in. So we're really talking about a lot of food. And as he did on Friday
0:05:26 – 0:05:31 Neighbours, first had to
0:05:31 – 0:05:35 Nursing services come to him.
0:05:35 – 0:05:38 Packing a wheelchair so that it can stop
0:05:38 – 0:05:40 Neighbours can be picked up who
0:05:40 – 0:05:45 Then they took care of him too.
0:05:45 – 0:05:47 He also eats food because
0:05:47 – 0:05:49 He no longer raises his arms.
0:05:49 – 0:05:51 He can lift it because he already has one.
0:05:51 – 0:05:54 It was a tough day and it was very
0:05:51 – 0:05:58 in the evening, was then supplied there with good food, as he said, and much
0:05:58 – 0:06:03 He ate and was later taken home by his neighbors.
0:06:03 – 0:06:09 or so, across the street then stop in the apartment.
0:06:09 – 0:06:13 And then they put him to bed and then they put him to bed the next day.
0:06:13 – 0:06:18 There was still food left over. The bang on the
0:06:18 – 0:06:26 History is, his neighbors, who have made since the small celebration, are owners of a gym
0:06:26 – 0:06:35 and very well-trained sports people, as he himself said. And what totally shocks me
0:06:35 – 0:06:42 was, as he said, that this was so beautiful there, because once again he had people and life
0:06:42 – 0:06:47 He saw his life, not his life. And when he makes voice messages,
0:06:47 – 0:06:57 That's, you just hear how exhausting breathing is for this person. And I mean,
0:06:57 – 0:07:07 It weighs 300 kilos and has a height of 1.65. It really got me, it keeps me busy.
0:07:07 – 0:07:12 Actually all the days now, because of course I already have limitations and problems
0:07:12 – 0:07:21 In my everyday life and I actually notice every kilo more or less on the scale. I have now
0:07:21 – 0:07:26 I'm afraid because of Christmas and so that I just gain a little more weight,
0:07:26 – 0:07:37 So that I can lose it again after Christmas or after New Year.
0:07:37 – 0:07:42 And I'm far from being able to move so physically now,
0:07:42 – 0:07:51 I can do sports. I mean, once butter at the fish, I'm 47 and I've never really been
0:07:51 – 0:07:58 I was always overweight, even as a child.
0:07:58 – 0:08:05 And then after the stroke and the depression and so on, I just gained weight.
0:08:05 – 0:08:08 It's been growing pretty fast.
0:08:08 – 0:08:14 There you have to say, there was also my then life partner, who had then stopped
0:08:14 – 0:08:17 Take care of your father with your mother.
0:08:17 – 0:08:27 He got sick and yes, that wasn't so easy for me, where then for half a month I was almost alone at home.
0:08:27 – 0:08:33 And this was not only once, this was the second time in the course of the relationship.
0:08:33 – 0:08:39 And every time, of course, I've grown like she wasn't here.
0:08:39 – 0:08:46 Yes, I think I've somehow compensated for something, a lack.
0:08:46 – 0:08:51 But for me it clicked in my head some time ago.
0:08:51 – 0:08:54 And I would really want to change something.
0:08:54 – 0:09:00 Of course, such a gastric surgery would only be relatively easier, like me, but
0:09:00 – 0:09:05 He is, as I said before, with me at the moment.
0:09:05 – 0:09:08 not eligible for authorisation.
0:09:08 – 0:09:12 But I will discuss this in another episode.
0:09:12 – 0:09:16 Why is it so complicated.
0:09:16 – 0:09:19 But you have to imagine,
0:09:19 – 0:09:23 The FDH and
0:09:23 – 0:09:27 "I'm eating healthy now" and so on.
0:09:27 – 0:09:30 It's not so easy because
0:09:30 – 0:09:33 I also have an eating disorder.
0:09:33 – 0:09:37 Exactly the opposite of
0:09:37 – 0:09:41 the eating disorders that you immediately have in your head.
0:09:41 – 0:09:50 So there are eating disorders, you eat nothing more or only very little and they become very slim very quickly.
0:09:50 – 0:10:01 Or there are stops where you can even be overweight or normal weight or underweight and surrenders after eating.
0:10:01 – 0:10:11 There are so many eating disorders that are different, like the ones you immediately have in your head.
0:10:11 – 0:10:17 I don't want to open the big debate here,
0:10:17 – 0:10:23 Because of the fact that this is all bad and that people always just think,
0:10:23 – 0:10:28 When you're fat, it's not mastery.
0:10:28 – 0:10:32 I can still remember that my mother had a discussion with her best friend,
0:10:32 – 0:10:41 For them, being overweight is not an eating disorder, nor is it a disease. This is
0:10:41 – 0:10:48 Simply, you just have to pull yourself together, then you also become slim again. So folks,
0:10:48 – 0:10:54 I can tell you one more thing. I eat a bread roll with cheese or sausage for breakfast
0:10:54 – 0:11:04 And the other half is, I've got jam on it. Then I have a muesli, homemade
0:11:04 – 0:11:15 Muesli. There comes in oatmeal, nutty, then there come in a few nuts, depending on what
0:11:15 – 0:11:26 There's hazelnuts, walnuts, peka seeds and all that. And then some fruit, pear, apple,
0:11:26 – 0:11:37 Strawberries or berries and yogurt. And so that you still have a bit of knisper, come a few
0:11:37 – 0:11:47 Oat flex from Cologne. I haven't found any cheap ones yet. That will stop then
0:11:47 – 0:11:52 Infused with a little milk so that the yogurt is not so firm. I'll eat that. If:
0:11:52 – 0:12:02 I have to sweeten it a bit, then add a few drops of sweetener and that's good. Yes,
0:12:02 – 0:12:12 Yes, that also has its calories and not exactly little, but the food keeps unlikely
0:12:12 – 0:12:13 for a long time.
0:12:13 – 0:12:18 So when I've eaten that, I'm sure I'm not hungry for six hours, seven hours.
0:12:18 – 0:12:25 And then we are already so in time that there is a second meal.
0:12:25 – 0:12:30 I know that many think that I know more about what kind of mountains shovel in there and
0:12:30 – 0:12:33 There are lots of sweets and so on.
0:12:33 – 0:12:36 No, that's not even the case.
0:12:36 – 0:12:39 It's actually that I stop
0:12:39 – 0:12:42 Calorie-wise, what I'm getting
0:12:42 – 0:12:45 and what I consume,
0:12:45 – 0:12:47 According to doctors
0:12:47 – 0:12:50 I am not in deficit.
0:12:50 – 0:12:53 I'm a bit in the positive,
0:12:53 – 0:12:56 But I'm kind of sneaking around the point,
0:12:56 – 0:12:59 where it is balanced.
0:12:59 – 0:13:02 Sometimes over it, sometimes under it, sometimes over it, sometimes under it.
0:13:02 – 0:13:04 Just like most people have.
0:13:04 – 0:13:09 The problem with me is that I don't move enough.
0:13:09 – 0:13:11 Now you'll say yes, then do it.
0:13:11 – 0:13:18 Well, I have a rollator for short distances, I have a wheelchair for long distances.
0:13:18 – 0:13:23 I don't need to sit down and walk for two hours.
0:13:23 – 0:13:26 And just as the paths are here where I live,
0:13:26 – 0:13:32 with the wheelchair. You can forget that. I'm having trouble with the rollator.
0:13:32 – 0:13:44 Yes, it's not easy for you, but this person really makes me think,
0:13:44 – 0:13:52 Because it's all about food. I mean, it's admirable that he's still
0:13:52 – 0:14:07 a bank in the office, so quasi in the revision work and since a few hours a week does his job.
0:14:07 – 0:14:14 But otherwise, this person has nothing else but food. And if he goes on like that,
0:14:14 – 0:14:21 Yes, he will eat himself to death. I thought about those days for myself,
0:14:21 – 0:14:32 That this is not an option for me. The reason for my death is that I ate myself dead.
0:14:32 – 0:14:37 Because there is nothing else in my life. My life has, even if it's small.
0:14:37 – 0:14:45 It is very sad and very uneventful. There are so many beautiful things that don't go with it.
0:14:45 – 0:14:51 Food is related. My fiancée, the creative projects I do with her,
0:14:51 – 0:15:00 my family, the other people I'm interacting with, whether it's on the internet or
0:15:00 – 0:15:08 Or even in real life. That's so much more than just food. Sure, I like to cook,
0:15:08 – 0:15:15 Otherwise, I wouldn't have done these cooking livestreams earlier. On TikTok while cooking
0:15:15 – 0:15:20 the livestream and then have a nice chat. But one day it will come
0:15:20 – 0:15:30 Point where I'm tired. And today, for example, I had the Sunday breakfast. These are
0:15:30 – 0:15:43 Two toasts with a fried egg and muesli and really didn't have it until when did I eat it? In order to:
0:15:43 – 0:15:53 At 10 a.m., I actually didn't eat a piece of cake until 9 p.m. And this will continue today
0:15:53 – 0:16:00 So that was the only one. And this piece of cake isn't a whole Sachert cake now
0:16:00 – 0:16:07 Or something like that, just a little piece of apple pie. If you have an apple pie like that,
0:16:07 – 0:16:19 halved, then halved again and halved again, so that you have almost such an eighth piece.
0:16:19 – 0:16:29 That would have to be an eighth. I don't necessarily think it's huge now. No whipped cream, just for that
0:16:29 – 0:16:37 You have a coffee without sugar with hair milk 1,5er?
0:16:37 – 0:16:43 All right, you could've said, boy, you could've eaten a salad, too.
0:16:43 – 0:16:45 But it's Sunday.
0:16:45 – 0:16:47 You know what I mean?
0:16:47 – 0:16:49 We don't eat cake every day.
0:16:49 – 0:16:51 This is Sunday.
0:16:51 – 0:16:53 I also like to eat a piece of cake.
0:16:53 – 0:16:55 And others do something else, such an ice cream or something else.
0:16:55 – 0:17:02 I'm getting back into this case of justification, I don't want to.
0:17:02 – 0:17:10 I really, I'm, I don't just have I'm really thinking a lot about it
0:17:10 – 0:17:19 And I've really determined for myself again, I don't want to live like that.
0:17:19 – 0:17:24 I was again this month
0:17:24 – 0:17:28 with my diabetologist. I had to
0:17:28 – 0:17:32 At least twice a year,
0:17:32 – 0:17:34 Ideally four times a year and I
0:17:34 – 0:17:36 I also go four times a year. If the doctor
0:17:36 – 0:17:38 They say the values are so high and
0:17:38 – 0:17:41 so on, we can get in
0:17:41 – 0:17:43 Six months, and I'll do it.
0:17:43 – 0:17:47 Also. But otherwise, I'm really all
0:17:47 – 0:17:49 Three months with my diabetologist.
0:17:47 – 0:17:51 and then go through the values and so on and the man is just satisfied.
0:17:51 – 0:17:58 I have a long-term sugar value under the medication like someone who is just healthy.
0:17:58 – 0:18:08 This is really very positive and very pleasing, because it stops the chance or the risk,
0:18:08 – 0:18:13 Let's say that the risk of any secondary diseases is extremely minimized.
0:18:13 – 0:18:26 But I still have my struggle here and there, because for reasons I have
0:18:26 – 0:18:34 Have a psychogenic obesity. This means that I have a mental disorder and
0:18:34 – 0:18:36 It's just an eating disorder.
0:18:36 – 0:18:44 How do you say so beautifully in the movie?
0:18:44 – 0:18:49 Help is Christmas very or a nice gift.
0:18:49 – 0:18:52 Christmas is a real feeling.
0:18:52 – 0:18:54 There are condoms.
0:18:54 – 0:18:59 This time before Christmas is always so difficult,
0:18:59 – 0:19:02 because there is an advent coffee drink
0:19:02 – 0:19:12 And even if I do that, you don't want to, who knows what kind of salad waffles
0:19:12 – 0:19:14 Or present it that way.
0:19:14 – 0:19:21 So you go and make waffles, but I'm already trying
0:19:21 – 0:19:27 Sugar must be partially replaced by substitutes.
0:19:27 – 0:19:32 But to keep the taste the same.
0:19:32 – 0:19:34 And many other things.
0:19:34 – 0:19:41 I'll give up on whipped cream or other things.
0:19:41 – 0:19:44 Toppings that can be done this way.
0:19:44 – 0:19:48 But you can't go there and always just give up.
0:19:48 – 0:19:53 But I know very well that when I go there and make hot cherries
0:19:53 – 0:19:59 and then make cream, a few chocolate sprinkles, a black-yellow cherry wafer or something,
0:19:59 – 0:20:05 that the next day this will also be noticeable on my scales,
0:20:05 – 0:20:14 The weight goes up. And that's a fucking stupid feeling. I hear from so
0:20:14 – 0:20:19 Many young people, especially young women, who always get ready when the weight
0:20:19 – 0:20:24 I go upstairs and when I see it that way, I always think that way.
0:20:24 – 0:20:30 I live in my body for a day and I live in your body for a day.
0:20:30 – 0:20:40 Who has the more relaxed life? Yes, but being fat is in our society
0:20:40 – 0:20:52 Top, nasty, mega stigmatized and also branded stop as "they're lazy, they're stupid, they stink".
0:20:52 – 0:21:01 There are so many negative terms, they also say narratives that are associated with it.
0:21:01 – 0:21:08 And they are all uncontrollable, because if they would only pull themselves together, then they would also become slim.
0:21:08 – 0:21:13 It has long been found that there are several factors for this.
0:21:13 – 0:21:22 For example, a certain intestinal flora can encourage you to get fat.
0:21:22 – 0:21:29 Then the metabolism, i.e. the genetics, which then has effects on the metabolism,
0:21:29 – 0:21:31 It can also have an impact.
0:21:31 – 0:21:38 And when several factors come together, you really have a problem with one.
0:21:38 – 0:21:45 identical calorie support with an identical calorie requirement and also an identical basal metabolic rate.
0:21:45 – 0:21:52 The basal metabolic rate is something theoretical.
0:21:52 – 0:21:59 This means how many calories or energy does the body need on its own that the stop
0:21:59 – 0:22:00 It works.
0:22:00 – 0:22:10 And if you are fat, you alone have the massively increased basal metabolic rate,
0:22:10 – 0:22:16 That the body works, because it has to be supplied with energy somehow.
0:22:16 – 0:22:21 So the cells and even the fat cells, everything has to be … and when moving is anyway
0:22:21 – 0:22:27 Even more consumed, because stop until this is in motion, this mass.
0:22:27 – 0:22:29 So very simple, very easy to push out.
0:22:29 – 0:22:43 And if you then have such an increased basal metabolic rate, then you can stop with the same calorie intake
0:22:43 – 0:22:50 one would lose weight and the other, which has a low basal turnover, would increase,
0:22:50 – 0:22:52 If he eats more calories.
0:22:52 – 0:23:00 That plays a role besides the basal turnover. Then stress actually plays a role,
0:23:00 – 0:23:10 because stress in turn has effects on metabolism and intestinal activity.
0:23:10 – 0:23:18 Yes, and there are many other factors that make you fat.
0:23:18 – 0:23:26 And I'm a stress eater. When I'm stressed, I have more appetite. To put it this way.
0:23:26 – 0:23:36 The last few weeks have been very stressful for me. Many dates, a lot of bullshit and stress in the
0:23:36 – 0:23:46 Family since the summer. And I'd really like to sit down with a blackboard
0:23:46 – 0:23:51 Putting chocolates and no
0:23:51 – 0:23:54 I have feelings of guilt when I do this.
0:23:54 – 0:23:56 would eat completely. But I know
0:23:56 – 0:24:00 It's just that it doesn't do me any good and
0:24:00 – 0:24:03 And then I'm fatter again to do that.
0:24:03 – 0:24:07 Let's say so. Yes, I know that is
0:24:07 – 0:24:12 It's an honest podcast, but this one.
0:24:07 – 0:24:20 Topic has touched me so much, triggered me, I can not put that into words. Failed
0:24:20 – 0:24:26 Even almost my voice and I get a huge lump in my throat. As I was then
0:24:26 – 0:24:32 I've been in bed after my stroke and I haven't even
0:24:32 – 0:24:36 could reasonably express itself without
0:24:36 – 0:24:40 man "What did they say? Understand this
0:24:40 – 0:24:45 I couldn't "communicate."
0:24:45 – 0:24:48 And then I stop halfway with links then
0:24:48 – 0:24:50 I tried to write things down.
0:24:50 – 0:24:52 And that you couldn't read that either.
0:24:52 – 0:24:54 First, because I'm really not good with links.
0:24:54 – 0:24:58 I can write, and secondly, I am
0:24:54 – 0:25:24 Legasthenika and yes, also made my spelling mistakes. It was hard, time. And if I imagine that 99 percent of the day this person lies in his bed and continues to break down and then only talks about beautiful food, that's hard to bear for me.
0:25:24 – 0:25:38 I really wonder how my girlfriend, my fiancé, makes it clear to herself that she can bear it.
0:25:38 – 0:25:48 One thing is certain, at some point this person won't answer my friend because he died.
0:25:48 – 0:25:50 And that will be a fucking big problem.
0:25:50 – 0:25:54 I know this is a really bad word game, but
0:25:54 – 0:26:02 for people who have listened to me for a long time or read my blog posts, who then
0:26:02 – 0:26:05 They are also of a private nature,
0:26:05 – 0:26:08 Know that I'm stopping
0:26:08 – 0:26:16 instead of going to the Bundeswehr, stop at the German Red Cross had committed me and then also there in the medical service
0:26:17 – 0:26:24 I did the paramedics and since I also went with the fire brigade on the weekend,
0:26:24 – 0:26:33 as a paramedic, as a paramedic who knows what this is like when overweight people stop
0:26:33 – 0:26:36 They need to be rescued from their apartment.
0:26:36 – 0:26:42 Yeah, that's going to come. They're going to be able to remove some windows and then
0:26:42 – 0:26:46 Get the body out of the apartment.
0:26:46 – 0:26:50 Because you don't drag 300 plus kilos through a stairwell.
0:26:50 – 0:26:57 No, even in the rescue blanket or something, you can't hold it.
0:26:57 – 0:27:00 Not even with ten men.
0:27:00 – 0:27:03 I can't even think of that.
0:27:03 – 0:27:07 This is a big problem, a big problem.
0:27:07 – 0:27:11 One thing has shown me this thing,
0:27:11 – 0:27:23 that for me the topic of overweight, my obesity, a really bigger and more complex
0:27:23 – 0:27:33 The subject was when I admitted it. When my girlfriend got a voice message,
0:27:33 – 0:27:41 In fact, I don't feel like sucking a sugar-free candy myself. That's something,
0:27:41 – 0:27:55 Which was totally ruined for me at the time. You can see that I'm also stunned,
0:27:55 – 0:28:03 But also so affected, because the fate of this person simply does not affect me.
0:28:03 – 0:28:11 Get out of your head. Similar problems, similarly stored, only severely different effects,
0:28:11 – 0:28:21 Just violent. Have we lost a lot of ground today? Well, with some explanations,
0:28:21 – 0:28:31 or I would like to have the one with the gastrointestinal surgery. But well, that's a shoe,
0:28:31 – 0:28:35 I don't even get dressed now. I would like to thank you for listening and
0:28:35 – 0:28:40 I would be happy if you would switch on again at the next digression.
0:28:40 – 0:28:45 Bye bye, Sasha.
0:28:45 – 0:29:01 [Music]

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In this episode of divergence Sascha takes us on an honest and touching journey through the complex challenges of obesity and eating disorders. A meeting of his fiancée with a special person in a Facebook group raises questions that go far beyond the physical: How do we define value, quality of life and responsibility? Sascha openly shares his own experiences, struggles and insights – from a stroke to daily confrontations with societal prejudices. This episode invites you to think and shows how deeply personal stories can get under your skin.

Topics Outline:

introduction

Welcome and presentation of the topic.
- Personal entry: The story of the fiancé and the Facebook group.
- Indication of the connection to one's own life and weight issue.

backstory

My own experience of being overweight.
- Previous weight (250 kg) and decrease by 70 kg.
- Weight Loss Challenges and Reasons.
- Thoughts about stomach surgeries and hurdles in the process.

The Encounter of the Fiancés

Contact the person from the Facebook group.
- Description of this person's fixed eating habits.
- Extreme cases: Unimaginable amounts of food and need of care.
- Contrasts: Host as a gym owner.

My own reflections

Thoughts about your own situation.
- Looking back at the post-stroke period: Relearn basic skills.
- Mental aspects: Stress, eating disorders and their influence.
- Positive aspects of your own life: Family, creative projects and health successes.

Social perspectives

Stigmatization of overweight.
- Prejudices and social narratives about fat people.
- Scientific evidence on causes (e.g. genetics, intestinal flora, stress).

Personal handling of the topic

Everyday life with weight and nutrition.
- Nutritional patterns and trying to find balance.
- Challenges arising from social events (e.g. Christmas, Advent).
- Strategies to deal with temptations.

Emotional depth

Effects of contact with the person on one's own point of view.
- Feelings of sadness and disbelief.
- Conscious decision: I don't want to live like that.

completion

Conclusion and personal appeal.
- Outlook on upcoming topics (e.g. gastric surgery).
- Give thanks to the listeners and say goodbye.

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