Overcoming inner emptiness and loneliness: When borderline feels like a hole inside

“Why inner emptiness can be so tormenting at Borderline – and how self-care, structure, creativity and secure connection can help.”

There are pains that can be easily explained to other people. A broken arm can be X-rayed, the plaster is the visible proof of the injury. A bleeding wound can be disinfected and connected. A loud dispute has concrete words, a loss has a clear name and a socially accepted time of mourning.

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Jealousy, fear of loss and trust

“Near ‑Distance Understand ‑ conflicts in relations with Borderline ‑Symptomatics – and deal with them constructively.”

There is jealousy that comes and goes: a short pull in the stomach, a thought like ‘Okay … why is this triggering me right now?’ – and then it settles down again. And there's jealousy that feels like a state of alarm. Not as a ‘drama for attention’, but as a real danger: as if it became clear in seconds that you would be replaced, abandoned or devalued immediately.

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