Borderline as a parent: The Balance Between Intense Emotions and Education

“Afraid of failure as a mother or father with BPS? Specific strategies for emotion regulation and healthy boundaries.”

Can I be a good mother or father with borderline personality disorder?

Many people with borderline (BPS) will ask themselves this question at some point, especially if they already have children or are thinking about starting a family. The fear of one's own failure is often overpowering.

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Dealing with Shame and Guilt at Borderline: The Way Out of Darkness After the Emotional Storm

“The crisis is often followed by icy self-hatred. This is how you break the spiral of shame and guilt and find your way back into regulation.’

It's a scenario that many of us know all too well. The storm is over. Perhaps it was an intense outburst of anger, a panic reaction from acute fear of loss, or a moment when the internal pressure became so great that self-harming behavior seemed to be the only functioning valve. While in the acute situation the adrenaline rushes and the body works in absolute survival mode, then, when the calm comes in, the inevitable emotional hangover follows.

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Between Light and Darkness: How to better understand and dismantle black-and-white thinking in borderline symptoms

"What's behind Borderline's black-and-white thinking? Find out why splitting occurs and how you can use specific DBT strategies to allow emotional shades of grey.”

Those who live with borderline symptoms or love a person who struggles with them may know these moments: Just there was still close, suddenly everything is in danger. This text is not intended to condemn, but to make it clear why this is happening – and how to find more nuances step by step.

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Overcoming inner emptiness and loneliness: When borderline feels like a hole inside

“Why inner emptiness can be so tormenting at Borderline – and how self-care, structure, creativity and secure connection can help.”

There are pains that can be easily explained to other people. A broken arm can be X-rayed, the plaster is the visible proof of the injury. A bleeding wound can be disinfected and connected. A loud dispute has concrete words, a loss has a clear name and a socially accepted time of mourning.

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Outbursts of anger under control: When the Volcano Awakens - A Deep Guide to Dealing with Sudden Aggression in BPS

“A wrong word, a look – and inside everything explodes. Behind this anger is often not malice, but fear, pain and overload. This article shows what lies behind it and what can help.”

It often happens within milliseconds: A false word, a fleeting, misunderstood look or a supposed rejection – and suddenly the heat shoots into the head. The world narrows into a tunnel, the heart races, blood pressure rises, and before the mind can intervene, anger bursts forth with destructive force. Words are fired like sharp arrows, doors are slammed, or anger is autodestructively directed against one's own person.

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Understanding on-off relationships at Borderline and breaking the loop

"Instable love is not a drama, but a system crash between the panic of abandonment and the fear of closeness – but this code can be patched."

It's Friday night. Actually, a relaxed dinner was planned. The week was long, the anticipation was great. But a "wrong" sentence, a misunderstood look or an answer to WhatsApp, which came two minutes too late, has suddenly changed the atmosphere in the room. The air suddenly burns. What was just the ‘great love’ and the ‘perfect match’ is now a threat.

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Between Fire and Ice: When Borderline and Depression Collide - A Guide to the Emotional Paradox

“Borderline and depression can reinforce each other. The article explains differences, therapeutic approaches and ways out of the emotional depths that are suitable for everyday use.”

Imagine you're sitting in a sports car. Your foot pushes the accelerator pedal to the stop – the engine howls, the speed is in the red, adrenaline floods your body. This is borderline mode: High voltage, intensity, everything is existential. And then, at full speed, someone pulls the handbrake. Not gently, but by force. The car slings, comes to a standstill, the engine dies. Silence. Paralyzing severity. Nothing works anymore. This is the depression.

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News from our podcast and blog: Newsletter October 2023

“Discover with us the world of emotions, social debates and culinary highlights. Your monthly mix of knowledge, discussion and enjoyment!”

Dear reader, dear reader,

Welcome to our October newsletter! This month we have put together an exciting mix of blog posts, podcasts and a delicious recipe for you. Immerse yourself in the world of emotion regulation, social discussions and culinary delights!

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