Day: shame

Dealing with Shame and Guilt at Borderline: The Way Out of Darkness After the Emotional Storm

“The crisis is often followed by icy self-hatred. This is how you break the spiral of shame and guilt and find your way back into regulation.’

It's a scenario that many of us know all too well. The storm is over. Perhaps it was an intense outburst of anger, a panic reaction from acute fear of loss, or a moment when the internal pressure became so great that self-harming behavior seemed to be the only functioning valve. While in the acute situation the adrenaline rushes and the body works in absolute survival mode, then, when the calm comes in, the inevitable emotional hangover follows.

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Outbursts of anger under control: When the Volcano Awakens - A Deep Guide to Dealing with Sudden Aggression in BPS

“A wrong word, a look – and inside everything explodes. Behind this anger is often not malice, but fear, pain and overload. This article shows what lies behind it and what can help.”

It often happens within milliseconds: A false word, a fleeting, misunderstood look or a supposed rejection – and suddenly the heat shoots into the head. The world narrows into a tunnel, the heart races, blood pressure rises, and before the mind can intervene, anger bursts forth with destructive force. Words are fired like sharp arrows, doors are slammed, or anger is autodestructively directed against one's own person.

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