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What You Really Need to Know About Dissociations at Borderline – A Comprehensive Guide

“Dissociation. A word that sounds medical, but often means pure horror or absolute emptiness for those affected.”

It is one of the most misunderstood symptoms of borderline personality disorder (BPS). Many people have heard the term before, perhaps in movies or series, where it is often portrayed dramatized. But only a few – even in the immediate vicinity of those affected – really understand what is happening inside a person. Why does it occur? Why are those affected often themselves panicked about it? And most importantly: How do you get out of there?

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Borderline: Why proximity and distance remain an eternal field of tension

“Understanding Causes – Developing Strategies – Shaping Relationships Consciously”

Introduction – the invisible pendulum

For many people, proximity is pleasant and distance is a harmless break. For people with an Borderline personality disorder (BPS) is the equilibrium fragile, highly sensitive system. The inner pendulum between ‘very close’ and ‘very far away’ can strike without warning – sometimes within minutes, seemingly ‘for no reason’, but actually triggered by microstimuli, stress residues or ambiguous signals.

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First Aid for Difficult Relationship Moments

“How to keep a cool head in crisis situations – and meet your counterpart with heart”

Introduction: If's cracking - why we should be prepared

Relationships are among the most beautiful but also most challenging experiences of our lives. They give us closeness, security and deep connection, but they also bring with them misunderstandings, disputes and painful moments. Two people, two worlds of experience, two unique personalities meet. It is only natural that there are conflicts from time to time.

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