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Hello and welcome to the diversion.
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Where I occasionally deviate from the subject.
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Hmm.
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Today's theme is inspired by a video I saw of the Carina Push on TikTok.
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That was kind of a third-party exploitation of a stream, what they did,
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a video about toxic masculinity, suicide and many other topics.
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femicide.
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I didn't watch the entire video, just the TikTok and
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Yes, there were a few questions left unanswered.
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She looked at this together with Freiraum Re,
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A woman on the move in this phenomism bubble
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and at that time was also fat with a streamer Sojoka,
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which also has phenemistic content and has topics such as violence against women and femicide.
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I was quite surprised by the comments in this video.
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because otherwise I'm Carina Pusch as someone who is extremely reflective,
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I've always watched and watched her videos about Pride Month.
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then had their discussion with ApoRed and then had also reported on other topics,
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which were up-to-date in this YouTube streamer scene,
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It was always about assaults by men on women.
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This was all discussed in the format "limit value" in the podcasts with MTC,
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What happened there and she made really good videos for it,
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which were really covered with sources, where I also thought so,
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Hey, that's really good what she's doing.
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But in this video, in this livestream, I really liked a few things where I thought,
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No, I can't do that.
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Because there are such statements as that even men choose the more radical methods when they commit suicide.
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and which are more effective, such as shooting safely, hanging or jumping in front of a bus or jumping in front of a train
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And that they always involve the guilty.
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That may be, the statistics clearly show that men choose safe methods like women.
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Women prefer to take pills or get poisoned elsewhere.
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But in such a way that death has a more pleasant form than hanging or shooting yourself or throwing yourself in front of a train.
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What I have felt so extremely strange and also as crass,
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As Freiraum Reh said, of course, that even men hurt women.
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And I find that the aspect of someone committing suicide in an absolute emergency situation,
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this is an absolute exceptional situation and then does not necessarily always act carefully.
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Of course, there are also often suicide attempts, which are more or less just a cry for help.
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and where it is then put on the fact that one is still found in time.
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But there are also those who are successful without much announcement, without anything being left behind.
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And these are exceptional situations in which this person finds himself.
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And I find it extremely reprehensible to then still judge,
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A woman's suicide has a different value than a man's suicide.
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I mean, we're talking about people who want to take their own lives or take their own lives.
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And that's one thing I've been thinking about for two or three weeks now, and I've been asking myself,
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Do you want to talk about it or something? Yeah, I'm talking about that now.
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I don't want to start here, be the big statistician here,
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But women are more likely to be helped if they are in a depression like men.
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They are more likely to go to the doctor, they are more able to talk about it.
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That there is this depressive mood or depressive episode.
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Or again, a recurrent depressive episode.
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Men are generally bad doctors.
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So you usually go to the family doctor first, talk about it and he says,
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You, I'll get you a transfer. Ideally, some family doctors will also try to treat it with the antidepressants.
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What I feel is totally reprehensible because depression is a potentially deadly condition.
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Even if that doesn't seem like it at first, it can lead to death.
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And there should already be people who are off the shelf. They are psychiatrists, specialists in psychiatry.
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However, women are more capable than men.
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Luckily, I was raised to be very communicative, otherwise I wouldn't do all the podcast projects.
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I also learned to talk about my feelings.
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I'm not so grateful to my parents for not showing me such a toxic male image.
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But that you just talk about it and that you've been taught that it's okay if you're sad, that you're crying too.
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I had had a period in my life when I was so depressed that I couldn't cry.
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I was actually envious of people who can cry because crying is a great outlet for getting rid of emotions.
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Yes, in any case, I have just in my depressive phase, which really went five years and I had several hospital stays,
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Sometimes it took me more than 12 weeks, I was able to seek help, accept help and learn a lot about myself.
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I mean, that all ended up later in a borderline diagnosis, which I had to fight for a lot, by the way,
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Because I've had a lot of other diagnoses around my ears, but I've never really found myself there.
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You have to say that I had always been someone who was very well read and I was also interested in the topic,
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As far as psychics are concerned, otherwise I would not have studied psychology until a few years ago, as a second and third degree.
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Yeah, now I'm back again. In any case, I have not found myself in this diagnosis, which they have called me
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And then I kept saying, no, I don't see myself there, I feel more drawn to it.
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And I was also told that I had read the symptoms until I was in a psychosomatic rehab.
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And they said, no, that's clearly Borderline, what they have.
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I am grateful that I was able to communicate this and that my suicide attempts were such that they were not successful, otherwise I would not be here today.
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Of course, I could have looked forward to life events such as stroke, but this gave me the opportunity and the time to start studying again.
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I was able to go and start these projects, the blog, the podcast and that I have the time to live my life like this,
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Even though I am now financially extremely miserable.
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But this is another topic, which I have also discussed before, in a different format, most likely in borderline.
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Welcome back to the podcast, to the video of Carina Pusch and Freiraum Reh.
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I've seen the video several times now, I'll pack it in the show notes below and I'm just as shocked every time,
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In fact, it's the suicide of a man who's still being misrepresented.
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I mean, if someone goes there and deliberately drives the car on the highway wrong, so that he is a ghost driver and then puts other people at risk,
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Then that's not all right.
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If the person begins assisted suicide, and I don't mean euthanasia, but stop, let's say, he takes hostage and pretends to be shot in the process,
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then this is also dramatic, because other people are affected and are most likely also affected in their mental health.
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However, these are exceptions.
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I can still remember that I had a fellow patient who was a caregiver himself, just like me, we talked.
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And he didn't give me the impression that he wanted to do anything to himself.
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And he just had insulin at home because he and his wife were both diabetic, and then he killed himself with the insulin.
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Yes, of course I was shocked because we were jokingly talking about it in our conversation.
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For a long time I was also responsible for the fact that I put him on the idea for the first time.
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And I also did not let myself be told, due to his nursing activities, that he came up with the idea himself.
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I felt guilty for myself for a long time.
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And then you realize on your own that it's a suicide of a person and it doesn't matter if it's a man or a woman.
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I can understand that we live in a masculine world where the position of the belt is made after a man,
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where the room temperature in large offices is calculated according to a formula for an average man and his heat demand,
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Medications are only tested on men because they don't have a cycle.
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And with many other things, that it is always on man or if it is then times for a woman, then a small man is taken.
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Yes, we have a world where it's mostly about men.
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But without women, humanity will not exist and I have not only been educated communicatively,
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But also in the knowledge and belief that men and women are equal.
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Of course, there are certain differences in thinking and acting and also in biology.
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But on the whole and bottom line, men and women are equal.
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My parents taught me that.
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There have been many conversations about the fact that there is a gender cup when it comes to pay.
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On average, women earn 20 percent less than men in the same job, under the same conditions.
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And that this is always justified. You could get pregnant.
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I know from an aunt of mine who is highly qualified that the long time had a problem finding a job,
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because old, white men had problems with a young woman who is more qualified than she is being able to take her job away.
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I know all about these problems.
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But my education and my reality of life is different.
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For example, I'm doing the budget here.
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My girlfriend supports me in this. She does other things for that.
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She goes shopping for it, which I can't do now due to my disability from my stroke.
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She then helps me with other activities here in the household.
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But most of it, like cooking food, doing laundry, that's what I do.
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She carries the laundry from the washing machine to the clothesline.
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Then I'll sit down and hang her up.
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This is a give and take.
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It's not like I'm thinking, oh God, I'm doing all this alone, oh God, oh.
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But we are there on an equal footing and we respect our limitations and weaknesses,
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On the other hand, we accept the strengths.
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That's one thing where I always think, what must these people or these women have experienced,
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It's so feminist that it's almost militant.
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This is the equivalent of the militant vegan,
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which in the most extreme way tries to impose its veganism in the world
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and really chooses methods that are not socially accepted,
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It's more of a borderline.
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And that's exactly what makes the space, i.e. the woman Freiraum-Re.
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It can't be that all the worse in the world,
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All the displeasure she has, it's all projected onto men,
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that in a situation where there is a man and sees no other way out,
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to end the suffering with his suicide.
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I wonder where is the empathy?
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Where is humanity?
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Yes, I could talk in rage for hours and think about it.
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I think it's fantastic that Carina Pusch and also Freiraum-Re were in Brussels,
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have stood up for women's rights in the European Union at the Parliament and there,
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Because we still have a lot to do.
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We are there at the very beginning, that there is always a reconnaissance work,
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where there are still weaknesses in our system as far as women's rights are concerned.
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As well as explaining that rape in marriage
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until a few years ago was still impunity and that certain CDU deputies,
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but also FDP deputies and candidates for chancellor have insisted,
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Rape in marriage is not a crime.
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By the end of the 1970s, the woman had to ask her husband if she could go to work.
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And if he said, "No," that was enough.
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That he called at work and said my wife isn't coming to work anymore.
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My mother, if my father had done that, she would have packed her bag and run away.
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My mother is anything but a feminist.
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My mother actually still has a relatively traditional family image,
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What she has in her head, what a woman must be able to do.
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Nevertheless, I have been raised with the fact that man and woman are equal.
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But I believe that the demands that she makes on herself, she also has on other people.
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Just as a young man has to deal with a drill and also knows how to paint walls,
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So she also expects a woman to be orderly and clean.
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When I look around in my circle of acquaintances, sometimes that's just not the case.
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And there it is the men who are more orderly and purer than the women.
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And on the other hand, you have women who are so skilled in craftsmanship,
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The man doesn't need to do anything because the woman does it.
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With my sister in the marriage, it had been so,
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that all technical problems, be it with the mobile phone, with the TV, with the laptop,
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That's because she did it and not my brother-in-law or my ex-brother-in-law, but she did it.
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He did other things for that.
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And then someone comes here and says that the socialist man is violent
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Even then, he still hurts women.
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That makes me so angry and so speechless because I was in this situation myself
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I really didn't want to endanger anyone else.
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Jo, I think I've said it all now.
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I'm also deviant again, that's good, because it's also called deviance.
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And if you feel like it, listen to other formats from me or other digressions
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Say thank you and see you next time.
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Goodbye, Sasha.
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