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Hello and welcome to a new edition of the digression. Yes, I know,
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I haven't done enough lately and I'm going to be in this format.
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The name is not fair at all. But I don't care. Hui, what a week.
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What a week! So much has happened, especially since Thursday. But remember there
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once again the topic of range responsibility and range-or rather attention-economics
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It's really a topic, which is super exciting. You just see that in it. When you get these
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Watched livestreams and what happened and then the reaction,
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That's on there. This is such a come and come and come and come. There just comes
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What and what is reacted to and it proves time and again that we live in a deterministic world.
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Universe, what happens to each action is a reaction. And that's always the proof
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for the chaos theory and various other theories that describe mathematically,
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How human behavior works is simply correct. This is a revelation every time.
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for this. If we take the livestreams today, it was a direct reaction to postings.
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and then there was the second livestream, the second livestream and there was a direct reaction to
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the previous livestream and after that there are still a lot of stories, which are a direct
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It was a response to the livestream. Yes, that's yes, attention eco, I can't think of the word.
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Great, this fantastic word-finding disorder. It is easy to see that the new currency is in
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The internet is just attention.
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A lot of attention is being produced.
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What I noticed again today
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is, is simple, they are fixed bearings.
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And when someone from one of them
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Lost in the other camps
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He tries to express his opinion,
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There is no discourse,
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because it is so solidified and sworn in,
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They are stubborn opinions.
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It is always said on all sides,
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I am so communicative and critical.
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But there you can see especially from one side,
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that it is not the case at all.
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And stories are posted,
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They naturally reflect their own attitude towards themselves.
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I mean, we've had this a lot in the past,
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that only half of the stories were posted,
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because in the first part the person's action was very praised.
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In the second part, they made fun of it. And they just left it all out,
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The negative. And you just notice that the postings are posted, which are just a certain
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Light, have a certain external effect. And this simply allows conclusions to be drawn about the
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Personality. And I can only say it again, like today in the story we made,
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that there really is a fragile ego behind it and that many actions from this side
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It's just because I'm so unsure of myself that I'm getting my recognition and approval.
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My confirmation can only be obtained externally, i.e. from the outside. Others have to do that for me. And
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And that just speaks for a deep, stuck narcissism.
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It's like that.
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Even though I've studied psychology and I know a lot about it, I'm not a psychotherapist.
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And I'll be careful to say something in that direction.
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But for me, in my opinion, this really speaks for a profound and even
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severe narcissism. Because if you watch the cutscenes at the last live today
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had looked more closely, where again and again messages in the chat or on Instagram
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They checked what was posted by the other side. You just noticed,
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There is someone who is extremely self-insecure, which is also blamed on the other side. But
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There you have a person sitting who handles the attacks on their very own super confidently.
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And I'm sure there were one or two spikes, but this person
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Says I can live great with what's with me and that came across credibly too.
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But you really tried to use all the little Nulliancen,
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to attack that person. Oh my God, they smoke. My God,
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"No, the child benefit is cross-financed by the tobacco tax. Be glad that there are people,
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They smoke. Well, on the other hand, they produce a lot of costs in the
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health care. But much of the tobacco tax is used to
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Yes, and then in the second livestream today you have the female
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Sitting accompaniment, which always gets a redder head. And you also notice from a certain
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Point, she's just going to be quiet. And only when the topic is back to the normal topic line
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It will be more communicative again. You just realized that there really was something
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It's bubbling. Because these typical areas on the face and neck, which became more and more reddish and
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Redder and redder and redder and you noticed there, yes, the blood pressure, there is pulse 300. Yes and I am myself
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I am sure that this whole situation, as well as the conflicts, will be resolved.
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It's very entertaining and exciting for the audience, but it's really unhealthy for everyone involved.
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Because if you look at all the communication behavior, yes, then that's kind of a topic. And
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The fact that other people are still hanging in there now, of course, also reinforces the matter.
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So if you think about it, on Friday there was the reaction to an opinion video from another creature about the first livestream.
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And yes, there was actually the unanimous opinion that it is now an ally, where
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So since it was quite violently beaten over the strands and you just hear that
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There is a person who has been hurt on the highest personal level.
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And that was also the one who made the first livestream today, yes also
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very well explained that this is someone who had offered his cooperation, who
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Livestreamer or podcaster or opinion blogger and that was rejected and you
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He reacted with an aggrieved ego.
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Which sounds completely logical to me, because I have already experienced something like this myself when people
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I offered and then I just got in touch and I got a bad feeling
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If I had, I wouldn't do that. I've also asked people for an interview and
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It just happened that during the conversations I had, I was
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I had a bad feeling and then I don't do these interviews. Even if the super exciting
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People are or reach-strong Twitch streamers, then I don't do that because I have to
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Delivering something that makes me feel good. I'd like to do a lot more things like this,
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But if I have a bad feeling, if you tell me, no, don't do that,
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Then I don't do that. And that's why I can understand this judgment, the decision very well,
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She said, "No, I don't do that with that person."
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Yes, I know, I express myself very cryptically again, but I don't want any
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Calling names because I know she's getting back in the wrong throat anyway,
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Especially on one side. And nothing clicks on me. And that's very simple.
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Just a quick explanation. I've been making videos on YouTube since 2009. With one or two exceptions,
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And they've always been very far-reaching for years, somehow.
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I have always had few clicks because I just deal with topics,
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or those who occupy me, who are not necessarily for a large audience
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are interesting. I once made educational videos about various topics from nursing,
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Then later, as it is, if you apply for a disability card or as it is,
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if you move with a disability card, what you have to pay attention to, if you stop
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re-registered and these were always very wide-ranging strong videos or the video where I just explain,
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If you just lost a Gmx email account, these were very wide-reaching videos.
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But that hadn't been something that was important to me, that I'd make reach,
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That I make money from it. My channel was monetized several years ago,
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because I have fulfilled the conditions for monetization, because I thereby stop coincidence
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I had some videos that went great. I also ask you to let me have my
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Put your face in the camera. Because the excuse, we have years ago, we have every day live
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Streamed on TikTok, wouldn't apply. Even this is our pure decision that we should do so.
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Do it laterally. And maybe there are reasons for that. There may also be real reasons for
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an NWO or with a Dragon Lord Hater Bubble. Maybe there are real ones,
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valid reasons for not being able to do so at this address. There are podcasts, and
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"No, there's no video about it anymore, but there's a podcast where I explain it.
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And now I don't feel like debunking this again.
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That's how it is.
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But back to the point.
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I don't like the success on YouTube.
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This is a podcast and it works as a podcast.
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There is an RSS feed that you can subscribe to. You can do this through Google,
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Google doesn't have a podcast anymore, but you can do it on Apple Podcast, you can do it on Spotify
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and subscribe to all sorts of other platforms, Amazon, Music and so on. And
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The clicks look completely different. Even in a month that's going badly,
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There are more than 10,000 downloads. Yes, because there is the audience who
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interested. YouTube is just another way to play. I would make video content and
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If it had the sad clicks that I now have here with the podcast, then that would be
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something else. But this is just a bonus and that of all things here with YouTube topics the
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Most clicks are made, I'm not surprised. Because the YouTube topics take place on YouTube,
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People who consume YouTube. There is a causal connection. Because the others
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Topics people hear in the morning when they
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Go to work if you have anything in
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the kitchen is doing or something else,
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Homework, gardening, anywhere you go
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If you can listen to the podcast, it will be
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consumed.
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Yes, I am happy about the rain
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Participate in YouTube videos.
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I think it's strong, I think it's strong. And that's nice for someone who is active in the podcast world, that there is simply interaction.
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Because you rarely get times, except a star rating or whatever with the other platforms is for a review that you liked what people have heard.
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heard. Rarely is there a comment on this. That's the exception.
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And so I'm all the more happy when the post goes off on YouTube,
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Because I can also exchange ideas.
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Because that's why I'm happy when people go to my blog
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and then just see that there are far more topics that concern me,
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than just this YouTube beef and our analysis of it.
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Yes, but you can see that we also benefit from the attention and
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We also do our, yes, success I wouldn't say, but that's what it's all about.
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What we do depends on how it is clicked. Because that is the
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The only currency we have is because we don't monetize all the stuff. And itself
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If I get my 1000 followers over the course of the week, I will, as it looks,
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Don't monetize because the cost-benefit issue is different. If the advertising
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If it is put in stupid places, then it is totally stupid, if that disturbs the flow of speech. And so,
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Yes, I don't know, can you somehow place the advertising on chapter marks? I know it
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Not because I didn't use it when I was doing YouTube. And
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because at that time there were not necessarily such chapter marks.
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You have to imagine, I'm from a time on YouTube, there were still star ratings.
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Yes, there were star ratings.
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And if you had a video in HD, and I'm not talking about Full HD, recorded in HD,
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You were already a professional.
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Most of them took their stuff with a simple webcam.
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Yeah, Dad, he's talking about the potato war.
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I'll say it like that.
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We are also part of the problem, because with our analysis and our summary
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of the events and commenting and giving our opinion on them, we hold yes
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This cycle is also running and active.
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And we are fully aware that it is part of the problem. But we are also aware,
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We have a range responsibility. And we can't go with "What about
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this man?" and try to relativize any content by saying,
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"Hm, you dropped the ashtray?" "Yes, but that's bad. I was last week
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The ice cream has fallen." You know what I mean. So, try any things
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They are similar to others who did not work together.
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To invalidate or even reduce the dramaturge of the whole.
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Yeah, that's how it is these days.
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There's talk about someone, someone else with a big age gap.
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Most likely eaten in the hotel and then they dodge it, but
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Why is it not mentioned that there are children's honours in Islam?
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Has anyone ever mentioned the circumcision of young women in Africa, to
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An example?
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That would also be a great whataboutism, because one is bad and the other is bad.
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It is an absolute spiral of indignation, what you could just witness live.
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And even if I understand 95 percent of the arguments of one side and also argue,
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argumentatively, i.e. drawn to this side,
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I just don't understand why if you
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communicates that you have such a big problem with it,
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that certain topics are discussed, that tips are repeatedly distributed and
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We also want to make sure that the topic stays current in the community. I have been in the past
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a lot of the Lives, so from the Morning Shows and also from the later Lives, which then
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Look at the transcripts. And there were actually weeks where in every live certain
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Names have fallen. Among other things, the terribly uncreative name for us,
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Shortcast. I mean, I can laugh at it because I think it's kind of funny. In Creativity
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If it is not …, there is no height of creation, one would now say so juridically,
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That there is no big idea behind it. But I think it's just funny. And I was actually
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I was surprised when, on Thursday or Friday,
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In fact, my name has fallen. I mean, that's almost such an honor that from me
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I'm talking to Sasha, I'm talking to Sasha. Wow, I thought that was great. That was so
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Moment when I thought, crass, but then immediately came again a threat with the lawyer
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Then after. And then there's the whole thing with all the comments. It is accused,
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Allow comments that offend. And even one is the grandmaster of censorship,
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Because until I checked this, there were no critical comments under
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Live streams or videos. So there is a very strong censorship itself,
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which equalizes all critical voices, removes them and thus generates a false image to the outside world.
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The perfect empathic journalist. And yes, this is a distortion of reality.
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Because with me only hard insults and I get my insults from a certain threshold
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Not let through. I can be accused of working poorly, of fucking
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I have a voice that I'm talking so slowly that I'm fretting nonsense and so on. That's all
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Not an issue. I'll let it all through. I also allow insults to the people,
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Which I'm talking about. I stand for this because it is beneficial for the discourse. After all,
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Freedom of speech. But then let me reproach that this is all harsh criticism,
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Hard insults. I guess you don't have to. But still, with such statements will stop
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Some image framed outwards. The subject of framing. We put something in a frame,
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so that it has a certain effect on the outside. And I go like this and mark
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The people who are critical of me are enemies. Cho Jok once said,
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Enemy marker. I would rather call it, there is a framework, a framing. And the
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something, yes I don't want to be offensive now, but the followers who are very fond of you,
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who bring in little thought performances or thought performances themselves, they like to follow
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Such framings and adopt these narratives and indeed implement them. How many times have I
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with me among the videos comments, which is almost the wording of the one YouTuber who today
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Sunday was the second. They are almost one-to-one the same.
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idioms in it. And that just shows that you have a certain range responsibility,
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in which one does not instrumentalize one's audience, whether this has now been openly communicated or concealed,
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to carry out certain actions with the other parties. That's the way it is.
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You have a responsibility when you have a reach and 30,000 lemmings are a
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a certain range, with which a great responsibility is also handled. I'm just saying, the uncle
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instrumentalize and use. I know that with such a fragile ego, how
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our streamer number two just has it, it's not always easy,
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Allow other opinions, especially pejorative other opinions.
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If anyone goes here and writes to me under this video and this podcast,
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that I'm the biggest Nulpe running around here and I'm just bullshitting,
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That is his opinion. I have to live with that. I can kind of make a stupid saying
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Pushing after, but it doesn't do anything. The other one already has his opinion. I'll be the other
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Nor can we convince them that this is not the case. Because he has his opinion. And
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We have experienced in many situations today that there are people who simply
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There were enough discussions in the past, where you could just experience this nicely.
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Yes, yes.
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What's left of this podcast?
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I would say a disbelief in how this spiral of escalation keeps turning
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Somehow, it's an absolute zero point. And this zero point is guaranteed
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It's going to be a trial sometime in the future, I don't even know when that's going to be.
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pending. And I'm curious to see what happens next. There will be fewer escalations.
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Because one thing has to be said, in this case there are no winners, in the end only losers.
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Because this discussion, this constant upheaval harms the content that you actually want to make,
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Because there is always another place. The best example was stream number 1 and stream number 2
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Today. In the first, it was actually only about streamer number two and in the second stream
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A lot of streamers number one. And that's sad when the content is just
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It is still governed by it. And I can't acquit myself of it because I'm right now
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That's exactly what I'm talking about, because today it impressed me as much as the dynamics.
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behind it. And even if it has been demanded several times, it must be a new file Flattermann.
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Guys, we haven't collected enough for this yet. With the material that is currently there,
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Maybe we'll get 30 or 45 minutes filled. And who knows what the next few weeks will bring
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Is it happening? There can be another escalation, another knocker after another. I don't know.
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If we are of the opinion, then we will follow up again. There are other factors in
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Life that just plays a role, why you can't always do what you want
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has. Or sometimes you just don't feel like it. We have the advantage, and that
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This is also the case with streamer number one. We don't live off what we do on the internet.
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make. It's all a hobby, it's free time. Well, it's pretty cool when you get that out of Just for Fun
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You can have fun with joy. I would now like to sing the joy of beautiful gods,
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but I would like to spare you this, because my voice is neither vocal compatible nor
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In this episode of divergence It is about what drives the network landscape at its core: Attention.
Sascha talks about livestreams, Echo chambers and the fragile balance between opinion, ego and public perception.
What happens when reactions become routine and discourse is replaced by camp thinking?
Why criticism is suddenly declared an attack – and how narcissism Uncertainty shapes the dynamics of the network.
An honest look at the responsibility that comes with reach and why Sascha herself is part of this system.
Let's talk... about "Uncensored & Outrageous." If there is only incitement instead of opinion.
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“Practical advice and communication tips to break out of patterns”
Between a person with Narcissistic traits And a man with a Borderline personality disorder Often an intense, almost magnetic relationship arises.
It starts with passion, understanding and emotional depth – and often ends in Chaos, pain and misunderstandings.
“What trauma bonding is, how it arises – and how the exit can succeed”
Trauma bonding describes an intense, elusive bond that arises in relationships with recurring cycles of stress and violence. It feels subjectively ‘magnetic’, but is Intermittent reward (periods of intense closeness) and sporadic injury (depreciation, Gaslighting, withdrawal) neurobiologically ‘wired’. When a person is strong Fear of abandonment (often with borderline patterns) and the other Control/superiority needs (often with narcissistic patterns) creates a cycle that entangles both: Proximity–pain–reconciliation–hope–relapse.
Continue reading "The role of trauma bonding in relationships between people with borderline patterns and narcissistic patterns"
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Hello and welcome to a new edition
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The quiet silence. I'm Sascha Markmann and I say hello. This podcast format is
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Yes, psychological issues. It is about behaviors, obsessive-compulsive thoughts, obsessive-compulsive disorders,
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Borderline narcissists and everything else. Today we want a communication tactic,
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which is often used in the narcissistic environment or in borderliners, in order to act as a perpetrator of
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Yes, distract. This is the so-called "Dare for" technique, a communication mechanism.
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It means denying "denial", attacking "attack" and "reverse" "victim offender".
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These are the perpetrator-victim reversals.
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It was created by psychologist Jennifer Floyd. It is almost the guide,
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how to recognize such communication patterns. And it's a guide to how to recur
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Patterns that people deal with accusations or criticism when they don't engage in their own behavior
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You can or want to acknowledge. The first thing we would deny is D-Nay. The mechanism behind it is,
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Criticism or accusations are categorically rejected. There is no content
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Controversy instead, but a global "everything is lied to, none of it is true" – psychological
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a defensive strategy based on the reduction of self-reflection. The technical term for this is
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The mechanism of denial. The effect of this is as follows. The other person is unsettled,
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The basis of the discussion is disputed. Outsiders can falter,
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If she says so clearly, that's all wrong. Maybe there's really nothing wrong with it.
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For example, this is all freely invented. I have nothing to do with all this stuff.
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The second phase is attack, the attack, the mechanism behind it. After the deniers
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Attention is actively directed outwards. Instead of defending themselves, the person
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critics. Typical means are insult, insinuation, job-damaging claims.
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Psychologically speaking, this is where projective mechanisms work.
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Internal insecurities are shifted outwards and others are pushed back.
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Technical terms such as "ad homine" – attack against the person, not against the thing, i.e. against the
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utterance, projection or projective externalization. Feelings of guilt are shifted to the outside world.
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The effect, the discussion shifts from the accusation to the defense of the critics.
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Emotional escalation is attacked, often reacts with anger, apparently confirming the presentation.
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An example, your podcast is junk, you're just bubbling and you're living
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of social fraud. The third phase would be the reverse victim opener, the victim-offender reversal.
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The mechanism behind this is, after denial and attack, the decisive turn follows.
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The attacker frames himself or "framed", as they say today, himself as a victim. The
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Critics as perpetrators. Psychologically, this is a form of cognitive dissonance reduction.
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One's own aggressive behavior does not fit into one's self-image, so it is reinterpreted.
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Technical terms in this area victim-offender reversal, English "victim-blaming-reversal", partly
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Also described as "gaze-lighting-light" because the perception of third parties is distorted.
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The effect. Outsiders are confused. Who is attacking whom here? They can be sympathetic
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tilting. People tend to protect the victim. The actual conflict is obscured,
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responsibility is blurred. An example. I'm the one who bullies here all the time
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will. They are obsessed with me and report me everywhere. Why is it tactics,
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Is the communication pattern so effective? Firstly, it is the speed. The sequence often comes
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Within a few seconds or hours if it's an internet post. Observe
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create a roller coaster that triggers strong reactions
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short-term meaninglessness, because he plays attacker and victim at the same time
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Audience effect. Especially on social media, the Davor technique amplifies its effect,
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I hope I've been able to teach you something new and I'd love to see you next.
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Turn it on if you want to hear about psychological issues.
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Until then, I say goodbye, your Sasha.
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In this episode of Quiet silence I am talking about a pattern of communication that recurs in conflicts, whether in everyday life, in relationships or in public debate: DARVO.
DARVO stands for Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender – i.e. Denial, attack, perpetrator-victim reversal.
We look at how this pattern works, why it is so effective, and how it also becomes visible on social media.
Using current examples from Instagram stories, we explain:
I'll show you which Psychological mechanisms from defensive strategies to projection and cognitive dissonance, and why DARVO is so confusing for outsiders.
At the end there are impulses, how to recognize this pattern without being drawn into the vortex. Because once you understand DARVO, you will discover it again and again in everyday life and online.
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“In relationships with personality disorders, boundaries often blur. This article will show you how to identify your needs, communicate clearly and protect yourself effectively – with many examples.”
Setting boundaries sounds simple at first – a clear ‘no’, a withdrawal when it becomes too much, or the need for time for oneself. In reality, however, this is often anything but easy. Especially in relationships with people who Personality disorder suffering – be it Borderline, narcissistic or Histrionic Personality disorder – the issue becomes even more complex. Why? Because in such relationships, emotional dynamics often occur that put clarity and stability to the test.
Continue reading ‘Set limits: How to create clarity in relationships with personality disorders’Borderline and narcissism – what connects them? Our guide reveals how destructive relationship patterns are broken through open communication and therapy. Discover the path to harmonious relationships!”
In the world of interpersonal relationships, sometimes two very intense and emotionally charged personality types meet: People with borderline personality traits and those with narcissistic traits. This constellation can seem fascinating at first glance, as it creates a seemingly magnetic attraction between the two sides. But behind this fascination is often a toxic interplay of closeness, control, emotional overwhelm and vulnerability. In this blog post, we want to shed light on the psychological dynamics of these relationships, highlight the frequently occurring patterns of conflict, and present solutions that can help break these destructive patterns.
Continue reading Borderline and Narcissism: Why they dress and how to break the dynamics”
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