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Hello and welcome to a new edition
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The quiet silence. I'm Sascha Markmann and I say hello. This podcast format is
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Yes, psychological issues. It is about behaviors, obsessive-compulsive thoughts, obsessive-compulsive disorders,
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Borderline narcissists and everything else. Today we want a communication tactic,
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which is often used in the narcissistic environment or in borderliners, in order to act as a perpetrator of
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Yes, distract. This is the so-called "Dare for" technique, a communication mechanism.
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It means denying "denial", attacking "attack" and "reverse" "victim offender".
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These are the perpetrator-victim reversals.
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It was created by psychologist Jennifer Floyd. It is almost the guide,
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how to recognize such communication patterns. And it's a guide to how to recur
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Patterns that people deal with accusations or criticism when they don't engage in their own behavior
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You can or want to acknowledge. The first thing we would deny is D-Nay. The mechanism behind it is,
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Criticism or accusations are categorically rejected. There is no content
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Controversy instead, but a global "everything is lied to, none of it is true" – psychological
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a defensive strategy based on the reduction of self-reflection. The technical term for this is
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The mechanism of denial. The effect of this is as follows. The other person is unsettled,
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The basis of the discussion is disputed. Outsiders can falter,
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If she says so clearly, that's all wrong. Maybe there's really nothing wrong with it.
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For example, this is all freely invented. I have nothing to do with all this stuff.
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The second phase is attack, the attack, the mechanism behind it. After the deniers
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Attention is actively directed outwards. Instead of defending themselves, the person
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critics. Typical means are insult, insinuation, job-damaging claims.
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Psychologically speaking, this is where projective mechanisms work.
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Internal insecurities are shifted outwards and others are pushed back.
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Technical terms such as "ad homine" – attack against the person, not against the thing, i.e. against the
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utterance, projection or projective externalization. Feelings of guilt are shifted to the outside world.
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The effect, the discussion shifts from the accusation to the defense of the critics.
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Emotional escalation is attacked, often reacts with anger, apparently confirming the presentation.
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An example, your podcast is junk, you're just bubbling and you're living
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of social fraud. The third phase would be the reverse victim opener, the victim-offender reversal.
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The mechanism behind this is, after denial and attack, the decisive turn follows.
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The attacker frames himself or "framed", as they say today, himself as a victim. The
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Critics as perpetrators. Psychologically, this is a form of cognitive dissonance reduction.
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One's own aggressive behavior does not fit into one's self-image, so it is reinterpreted.
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Technical terms in this area victim-offender reversal, English "victim-blaming-reversal", partly
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Also described as "gaze-lighting-light" because the perception of third parties is distorted.
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The effect. Outsiders are confused. Who is attacking whom here? They can be sympathetic
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tilting. People tend to protect the victim. The actual conflict is obscured,
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responsibility is blurred. An example. I'm the one who bullies here all the time
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will. They are obsessed with me and report me everywhere. Why is it tactics,
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Is the communication pattern so effective? Firstly, it is the speed. The sequence often comes
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Within a few seconds or hours if it's an internet post. Observe
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- Consumers are surprised - emotional dynamics, denial, anger, victim role
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create a roller coaster that triggers strong reactions
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- Narrative control - Whoever uses this communication pattern has
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short-term meaninglessness, because he plays attacker and victim at the same time
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Audience effect. Especially on social media, the Davor technique amplifies its effect,
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Because outsiders often only see fragments and the victim role is stuck at the end.
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I would definitely like to thank you for your listening and your keen interest in this format. me
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I hope I've been able to teach you something new and I'd love to see you next.
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Turn it on if you want to hear about psychological issues.
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Until then, I say goodbye, your Sasha.
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