Caught in the Drama Triangle: How YouTube Conflicts Feed the Psyche and Algorithms

‘From dispute to content machine: How psychology and algorithms keep the YouTube drama alive.”

Anyone who moves in the YouTube ecosystem for a long time knows a strange phenomenon: A channel starts with technology, true crime, politics, entertainment, lifestyle or social issues – and at some point everything seems to revolve around other creators.

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Borderline as a parent: The Balance Between Intense Emotions and Education

“Afraid of failure as a mother or father with BPS? Specific strategies for emotion regulation and healthy boundaries.”

Can I be a good mother or father with borderline personality disorder?

Many people with borderline (BPS) will ask themselves this question at some point, especially if they already have children or are thinking about starting a family. The fear of one's own failure is often overpowering.

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Is hate really the opposite of love? – Why the answer is more complicated than it seems

‘Philosophy and psychology show that: Those who hate don't let go. Real emotional distance only begins with indifference’

When people are asked about the opposite of love, there is often a word: hatred. The answer is a matter of course in everyday life. Love stands for affection, closeness and care, while hatred stands for rejection, hostility and distancing desires. At first glance, the matter seems clear. But is it really that uncomplicated?

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Dealing with Shame and Guilt at Borderline: The Way Out of Darkness After the Emotional Storm

“The crisis is often followed by icy self-hatred. This is how you break the spiral of shame and guilt and find your way back into regulation.’

It's a scenario that many of us know all too well. The storm is over. Perhaps it was an intense outburst of anger, a panic reaction from acute fear of loss, or a moment when the internal pressure became so great that self-harming behavior seemed to be the only functioning valve. While in the acute situation the adrenaline rushes and the body works in absolute survival mode, then, when the calm comes in, the inevitable emotional hangover follows.

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Between Light and Darkness: How to better understand and dismantle black-and-white thinking in borderline symptoms

"What's behind Borderline's black-and-white thinking? Find out why splitting occurs and how you can use specific DBT strategies to allow emotional shades of grey.”

Those who live with borderline symptoms or love a person who struggles with them may know these moments: Just there was still close, suddenly everything is in danger. This text is not intended to condemn, but to make it clear why this is happening – and how to find more nuances step by step.

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Overcoming inner emptiness and loneliness: When borderline feels like a hole inside

“Why inner emptiness can be so tormenting at Borderline – and how self-care, structure, creativity and secure connection can help.”

There are pains that can be easily explained to other people. A broken arm can be X-rayed, the plaster is the visible proof of the injury. A bleeding wound can be disinfected and connected. A loud dispute has concrete words, a loss has a clear name and a socially accepted time of mourning.

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Outbursts of anger under control: When the Volcano Awakens - A Deep Guide to Dealing with Sudden Aggression in BPS

“A wrong word, a look – and inside everything explodes. Behind this anger is often not malice, but fear, pain and overload. This article shows what lies behind it and what can help.”

It often happens within milliseconds: A false word, a fleeting, misunderstood look or a supposed rejection – and suddenly the heat shoots into the head. The world narrows into a tunnel, the heart races, blood pressure rises, and before the mind can intervene, anger bursts forth with destructive force. Words are fired like sharp arrows, doors are slammed, or anger is autodestructively directed against one's own person.

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Why digital violence is escalating on social media and how to tackle it

“Hate comments, cyberbullying and digital hate speech are on the rise. But why are online conflicts escalating so much faster than in the analogue world?’

Introduction: The dark side of digital networking

The internet, and social media in particular, once entered our lives with a utopian promise: They should serve the democratization of knowledge, break down barriers and unite people worldwide in an open, constructive dialogue. Today, more than two decades after the rise of the first major platforms, however, a much more ambivalent picture emerges. In addition to the undeniable advantages of global networking, the digital space has increasingly developed into a venue for verbal assault, intimidation and systematic incitement. We understand these phenomena under the concept of Digital violence together.

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